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It is over.

charlize111
charlize111
Why is it that relationships get bogged down in petty issues? Today, I just finished a long-term relationship. She had been saving up ingots of perceived affronts and suddenly unloaded them all to me. Some of these ingots have been saved in her little box, one set aside for everyone she knows, and one that, should she be in a funk, takes down and opens and pours out the ingots on the table in front of her. She then takes each one and relives it as though it happened yesterday. This allows her to be really angry with that person, today, which apparently is what she wants to be. Well, she boxed me in so that I had no out. I don't know if that was her intent, but it was the effect. So, it is over. I don't know how I feel about it, is that odd?
applejaxxxx
applejaxxxx
No, that is not at all "odd". You're overwhelmed with too many variables to "process" at once. The old adage rings true here, "give it time", because over time, you will be able to process the multitude of issues as necessary.

Hope this helps.
charlize111
charlize111
Today, I re-read the last note I wrote to her. It was good. It said precisely what needed to be said, that I was going away and why. She has written back but I haven't read it, for it doesn't matter. There is a void, you can't be with someone for 5 years and not feel the void, but I'm not all that broken up. And suddenly a friend wrote to me who I haven't had contact with in over a year. Is there telepathy? What made her think of me at this time? I wonder. It felt so good to hear from her. And Applejaxxxx came to give me some encouragement, too. It is still early in all of this, but I feel rather good, in an apprehensive way. Still, I'm confounded on why people let the little stuff get in the way.
applejaxxxx
applejaxxxx
You may as well face it Charlize111,
YOU are a human. Its OK. Humans feel. That's what makes us human. Some say some humans 'feel too much' -- and that makes a mess. Some say that some humans have NO feelings -- and THAT makes a mess! So, the key is finding BALANCE.

So, when you were in the mood for READING (the other day) and were re-reading what you wrote to your ex -- why not close the circle and read HER reply? What could be more out of balance than to re-read your OWN message and not provide the courtesy of a reply (in the context of at least reading the other person's response?

Of COURSE there's a "void!" You're human. She's human. We're ALL human! Humans feel. Its what makes us human. Its what we do. It makes life interesting.

As for the friend who wrote you -- OF COURSE there is "mental telepathy" (and so much more you seem to be unaware of in the metaphysical realm as of yet). Thoughts ARE Things! (Like a book 0r a rock). Thoughts are things. That's why the wise say, "Be careful what you think."
;->

Dunno if you go on YouTube much, but there's a channel by a gal named Abraham Hicks. She has a lot of interesting insights on how we process things, feelings, emotions, manifesting things, fixing things and she REALLY explains WELL techniques to try when trying to sort out things like you're going thru.
You might like it.
radgal
radgal
What your gf does is called "kitchen sinking" and "gunny sacking"