The first thing I would suggest is don't rush into a relationship, for the sake of being in a relationship. When you find that special person, then you will know. As far as meeting people, that can be more difficult depending on where you live. Online dating sites can be one way to meet people in your area, but you have to be careful that the people are sincere, honest, and mean you no harm. I only say this because of an unusual experience I had with online dating. Gay bars is another possibility, but again, depending on where you live that may not be an option. If you are scared and confused, maybe you should talk to someone you trust and see what advice they have for you.

First of... being a virgin and waiting is nothing to worry about. You can technically still date while being in the closet. You just have to talk and make it work.

Though, I will be honest, being closeted can be very hard. The stress you have from just yourself and sometimes your significant other can definitely get intense. So, when you do find someone, make sure to talk about it. The last thing you want is for anyone to feel like they are part of a "dirty secret."

As for meeting people... join groups. If you go to school join the Gay Straight alliance. It's an awesome way to meet people. I'm serious. Gay friends, even straight friends (because they know gay people) really help... it's like getting a job, you have to put yourself out there a little to meet people. You can also try online dating sites. Just be careful when it comes to strangers.

Sister.. life isn't going to be as complicated or scary as you think it will be. Imagine Coming Out at 40'something or 50'something. There are women here who have hidden their souls in The Closet through more than one marriage to men!
Wild. Ain't it.

We live our lives in The Closet by ..choice. Slow it all down, get to know yourself, no pressure, and see where it leads you. Take a very, very deep breath :O).. and follow your instincts. Consider living your life by what make you happy; and see who God puts in your path. I can pretty much promise you; you will find what you're looking for :O)

Easy does it Sister ~
((long hug))

thanks everyone.....your advice makes me feel way better about my situation and less like an alone loser...its better when you realize your not the only one that's had to face this