Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group

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insecurities

NeverOver
NeverOver
Ok With my past relationships in mind I am soo afraid of this one afraid of getting hurt of being left.. all that stuff.. I haven't let it hold me back but please tell me this goes away as things progress
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I've felt the same way,when we have been hurt or let down its so hard to not expect it to happen time and time again.
The best way of dealing with it,is to keep talking about all your fears,its the only way that your new partner will really understand your insecurities,and it feels heaps better to get them off your chest.
It does become a little easier,but I can't say it ever goes away altogether,or it hasn't in my case.
Live and love for the moment,no one knows what tomorow will bring.
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yes, keep talking is the best, but with no expectations. The latter is what got me down. Be hurt is part of the process, but most of us are coming from very "hurtful" childhood experiences, which is hard to get past. One day at a time seems the best. Will it get better, yes, but how much is still out there. Only you can make it happen. Sorry, that last sentence seem so much like preaching. I am not preaching, but just re-living experiences that are helping to free me of those terrible fears of being hurt. Keep talking and posting, it helps.