Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
This community is for those who are in a gay marriage, and the unique challenges that may be had in a same-sex relationship. Find support and talk to others in a same-sex marriage, and get advice from the experiences of other members.
Hi everyone, I seem to be able to dish out good relationship advices for other people except my own lol.
Ok I am at wits end about my girlfriend, everything about her is wonderful otherwise I wouldn't be with her in the first place right. Her hearts is in the right place for me which is the most important thing to me. But she really has a problem trusting me.
I have tried every avenue available to earn her trust but she just doesn't seem to or want to trust me and I really think its not what I am doing but her inherent nature. I have given her all access to my facebook account, email and handphone. She is free to check on my chats anytime she wants. I am crazy enough to even suggest that maybe she hires a PI to trail me or install a gps and security camera in my room.
I have been told I have a player face because I am good looking and she is overweight which doesn't seem to be helping. On top of this I've never had random sexual encounters nor even intend to have one whether or not I am single or in a relationship. Sure I have randomly kissed a few girls in the club in the past like a cheeky thing but never have I gone home with them. And yes I do look the part of a wild party person but when it comes to relationships I am a serial monogamist. I have already toned down my image to make her feel safer but nothing seems to be working.
I usually try to remain calm and when she goes on an accusation vitriol but I am also unable to control my temper when she goes to far. I feel it is very unfair that I have been doing everything in my power to earn her trust and yet she is unable to get it. The final push is when she throws the break up card just to test me. I get so annoyed and irritated. And when I insist for her to come out with my friends she is usually quite dismissive of the invitation as she feels out of place, however my reason for her to come with me on my outings with friends is to show her the kind of people i hang out with so that she won't vilify them or think I am with some other woman.
Help!! How? What do I do??? I really love this woman even tho she is amazingly talented at pushing my emotional limits.
Ok I am at wits end about my girlfriend, everything about her is wonderful otherwise I wouldn't be with her in the first place right. Her hearts is in the right place for me which is the most important thing to me. But she really has a problem trusting me.
I have tried every avenue available to earn her trust but she just doesn't seem to or want to trust me and I really think its not what I am doing but her inherent nature. I have given her all access to my facebook account, email and handphone. She is free to check on my chats anytime she wants. I am crazy enough to even suggest that maybe she hires a PI to trail me or install a gps and security camera in my room.
I have been told I have a player face because I am good looking and she is overweight which doesn't seem to be helping. On top of this I've never had random sexual encounters nor even intend to have one whether or not I am single or in a relationship. Sure I have randomly kissed a few girls in the club in the past like a cheeky thing but never have I gone home with them. And yes I do look the part of a wild party person but when it comes to relationships I am a serial monogamist. I have already toned down my image to make her feel safer but nothing seems to be working.
I usually try to remain calm and when she goes on an accusation vitriol but I am also unable to control my temper when she goes to far. I feel it is very unfair that I have been doing everything in my power to earn her trust and yet she is unable to get it. The final push is when she throws the break up card just to test me. I get so annoyed and irritated. And when I insist for her to come out with my friends she is usually quite dismissive of the invitation as she feels out of place, however my reason for her to come with me on my outings with friends is to show her the kind of people i hang out with so that she won't vilify them or think I am with some other woman.
Help!! How? What do I do??? I really love this woman even tho she is amazingly talented at pushing my emotional limits.
Love is not meant to be a struggle; Love is easy, pure and wise. If neither of you are ready to accept the purity and grace of this connection,..then its time to move on. And...there is nothing wrong with that.
Good luck to you both (hug)