I recently found out that my wife had an affair. At first she tried to deny it but then I showed her proof and now we are past that point. We had a long discussion where she told me that she loved me and that she didn't want to lose me but that she didn't want to leave the other girl alone either. She said she didn't know what she was doing or what she wanted but that she was sorry for hurting me. Then, later, she told me that she chooses me. I found out that she was still talking and spending time with the girl and she couldn't tell me that it was over with her and that she would never cheat on me again. I asked her if she loved the girl and she said she didn't know so I gave her my wedding ring back. She begged me to put it back on and I told her that I couldn't as long as she was still involved with this other woman. I told her that I didn't want to be someone's option. I want to be someone's one and only. I deserve that! A few days later, she told me that she is done with the other girl and that she will never speak to her again and that she would never cheat on me again. And that she loves me and doesn't want to lose what we have over someone she barely knows. She even wanted to check out some books on marriage at the library. Is it over? Really? And why can't I get the image of them having sex out of my head? Possibly because I see the scratch marks on her back every night that I did not put there. My heart is killing me!