Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
This community is for those who are in a gay marriage, and the unique challenges that may be had in a same-sex relationship. Find support and talk to others in a same-sex marriage, and get advice from the experiences of other members.
There are is so much more available now than back in 1986 pretty much all we here then were a couple of bars and a church. Have you considered an online dating service? Put yourself out there and as to your question "Is it even possible that she (whoever) would ask me out?" YES, they will ask, I was fairly shy about asking a woman out back then, and yet interestingly enough I was indeed asked out, I believe you will be also.
Good Luck