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How do you accept it wasnt meant to be.

hunnynutty
hunnynutty
I met a girl online. Was suppose to meet said girl. Got very scared and paniced and backed out. Now this girl barely talks to me. But she and me have a mutual friend. And she has met this mutal friend a couple times, and again this weekend are suppose to be hanging out. I feel kinda hurt> but I am not sure if I should feel anything. I mean I was one that cancelled. I dunno I just feel really conflicted. Anyone got any comments.
MsTeriLyn
MsTeriLyn
Your conflict may be partially self inflicted, just like your fears are self inflicted and kept you from meeting 'said woman'. ((hug)) I'm sorry sweetie, but ya know,...it's not the end of the world.
You might consider taking this opportunity to look inside to see why you backed out; - check yourself - are you ready for a relationship? If you are,..the only way to start one is to go meet them hon ((hug)). Were you not all that attracted to 'said woman' ? If not, then you're right,..it wasn't meant to be. If you were attracted to her,...then you took fate into your own hands :O/

Take it easy on yourself. I think you may have learned a big lesson here. (hug) When you're ready and able to meet someone, ..you will :O)
dreamsicle
dreamsicle
DITTO to MsTeriLyn, this may be the perfect time to consider why you backed out, and what you can do so you will not back out the next time.

Life moves on and has a way of bringing new and interesting people into our lives when we least expect it. Maybe you could work on being ready the next time you have an opportunity to meet someone new.

Good Luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did you at least warn her? Call her? Or were you just a no-show sis? Perhaps she feels most slighted by the being 'blown-off" factor, and thus the result of her barely speaking to you. Also she may have taken that as instead of you being frightened, that YOU werent interested in her. Whatever you do dont be hard on yourself. You got cold feet, and it happens. She may come around again; especially if shes truly interested.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hunny,

I would say the reason you might have backed out was a gut feeling. Fear, uncertaintly, are often born of those gut feelings. No matter what the outcome in the end, you should always listen to those gut feelings, they are there for a reason. Often our bodies, tell us what our head doesn't want to admit.
Otherwise you might just have to accept that old saying, "you snooze, you lose.". Find out what really stopped you from going. If it was something said, something acted, or something learned, take the lesson and work it to your benefit. Maybe the answer is to not pick the same type of person next time. Its all in your perception of yourself, what you want, and how you go about getting that.

Good luck..