Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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i have been divorced for ten years and still find my self loosing sometimes when my kids leave. i only have joint custody due to an abusive relationship i was in and due to the fact i have no family to watch kids while i work. im a workaholic that works like 70 hours a week. but now finding myself getting extremely depressed when my kids and now my girl leave. i dont wanna be needy. i freak when she calls and says she cant come over. we both work crazy hours and dont see much of each other. how do i not be so damn needy and just be happy for the time she gives me. i feel like a puppy waiting for its owner to come home. i cant go to her house because she lives with parents so i just sit and wait and wait and wait. need to be content by myself. i hate this feeling.
I totally understand about not being content with myself. I live alone and when I find myself freaking out I keep myself occupied. I find something to fix, I read a book, listen to music or exercise. Something to keep my mind off of being alone. It gets better.
Just a little something to think about...
Not every Fear should be covered up by finding 'somethig to keep you busy'. Sometimes we have to look it right in the eye. And, in this case, since you were born alone and will die alone (sorry, LOL.. it's the reality of the human experience).. you have to find a place of peace when you are alone :O)
Being alone is a very enlightening place to be. Especially if we are living our lives around others; letting their need encompass ours; finding our own peace and contentment simply in their presence.
I'm a loner at heart, and even when I'm partnered, I require the peace and quiet of ....MsTeri. I know what brings me personal joy because I had to find them! These things aren't complex or hard to find; I love to cook, bird watch, take walks, think outloud and solve my problems, journal, watch movies that make me cry, redecorate a boring corner of the room, read a juicy book, call someone who has been asking for my help, pluck the dead flowers in my garden, listen to the whisper of the trees when a breeze blows, listen to my favorite music.. etc., etc., etc.
There is really nothing to be afraid of dear one :O) You have not lost anything because a few hours have separated you from those you love :O)
You are a caretaker. You find your value in giving to others and being around the energy of those you love. It is BEAUTIFUL..but very hard on your own soul and happiness. To reach a balance, the next time you find yourself alone; sit down and make a list of things you'd like to do; that you have the freedom to do..and then feel the unusual, but well deserved Joy as you partake in those tasks :O)
Life is good! Life is Yours. Enjoy it!!!!!
((((long hug))))