Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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Hey everyone,
So I had my fiancée over this past weekend for the New Years. I went to pick her up on Friday morning. Friday went pretty good; everything was fine. Before we fell asleep, we messed around and it was amazing. She made me feel really happy and wanted. Then Saturday morning came around and she started throwing up at 5:30am. She continued to throw up for two hours before telling me that she had kissed another guy that worked at the hospital that she volunteered at for school this past semester. She had also told me that he "forced her to have sex with him" when she had opened that door all by herself just by kissing him. After she told me, she asked me if I was mad at her and I had told her "I mean I'm a little mad at you but I know that it's in the past so I couldn't do anything about it". But I was really mad at her for hiding it from me for so long. She has had sex with one other guy before this guy and she told me that it wouldn't happen again but it happened again. I have cheated on her like twice but I haven't had sex with anyone but her. I just wish that she would do the same thing and not have sex with someone that isn't her partner. I'm at the point where I want to break up with her but at the same time I don't want to because I have trouble falling in love with guys after my past experiences with my past boyfriends. Another reason why I don't want to break up with her is because I know that when I do break up with her, she'll go off and tell her friends that I broke up with her and they will tell her that I will change my mind and go back to her. She has been my rock through a lot of things that has happened this past year (2016). I just don't know what to do with my life anymore. It feels like to me that she's just taking advantage of the ring I gave her and being like "oh yeah, I'm engaged to her but she's not here at school with me, so I can go do this and she won't find out that I went and did this until I tell her." I hate people who are like that. Please just reply with your thoughts and opinions.
She needs to grow up. She's breaking your heart and it seems she doesn't even care! That trust you have is being beaten down and you deserve way better than what she's doing to you. If she can't see that she's hurting someone she's supposed to love, then there's a real issue that needs to be addressed :( I hope you're going to be okay x