Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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try to make this short. my gf and i broke up today. were only together for 6 months.didnt live together. the breaking point was she is not attracted to me sexually. the day started off with her asking me if i would mind her hanging with her ex. i said its fine as long as shes not intimate with them. we started going back and forth via text and i said i only act jealous and insecure cause know she is unhappy. she said she cant force it anymore and we need split. i cried for many hours like an ass infront of kids. didnt hear from her for hours till finally she starts texting and saying one minute were tough we will get over it then she never meant to dump me she just wanted to vent. we never talk for 6 months only by text. she is not capable of discussing feelings. said its not end of world we just lost the spark. why do i stay and put up with this. why do i want her back so bad. she was like sleeping with a stone cold butch with no passion. i tried and tried and tried. she was really my second woman so now feel ugly and failure and incapable of making a woman happy. she was 17 years younger than me and she broke my heart. feel like acting like a young ass. it wa so hard never knowing what she wanted or how she felt. she was always stressed and angry . we usually always had one good night a week and the rest of week would hardly see each other and get stressed cause really dont get why she stayed so now dont get why i care that shes gone. i guess want to know if its worth the fight. is it possible to get spark back when it never really was there.. i miss her so much and have for months. she made me laugh and cry and feel and never thought i could. and i feel stupid cause people have huge issues like sickness and disease so why should i be so stressed. guess cause im financial mess and work is stressful and now her . i dont know i know need counceling just cant afford it so looking for advice
You're a fresh, new authentic spirit just now beginning to live your life! Honey! I hate that your heart is broken. I really do. But, you know what? This last connection is teaching you what you want,...what you need. It will be a long, interesting, maybe difficult journey.. but SO worth it!! Someone is out there ~ waiting for you to be ready for her :O)
I PROMISE you this.
Live your new beautiful life. Find joy in what you love to do. Get out there. Join in. Find new friends. Let the sunshine in. You'll bump into her ~ quite accidently *wink. And, then,..only then.. will you be ready!!!
((Long Hug))
*Big Smile.
You pretty much said it yourself, if you look back on your entry. She was not good for you. No feelings, no passion, angry and stressed. Are these really things you want for your life? I think not. You do not need to be getting down on yourself. Maybe she is a stone cold butch, and that is something you are not completely interested in. I do believe you loved the fact that she found you attractive and wanted you because she is so much younger than you. How exciting! Like Ms. Teri said, now that you have figured out what you don't want, think of the qualities you do desire. Then when you are feeling together again you can get out there and find yourself the "right" girl. One that discusses her feelings, one that is happy and passionate and is interested in you!
((((you can do this)))) heal quickly my friend, the world is waiting!