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I wasnt really sure where to post this, so I am trying to get it out on here. If this is the wrong place Im sorry.
Me and My gf have live together for abot a year or so...
So Thursday last week my gf finally actually told me that were done. She had gone away for awhile a couplemths back to deal with family issues. And while she was she asked if we could just take a break. She was just really stressed. Then she admitted that while away she had kissed a guy and hadnt really stopped him. She hasnt been with a guy, so I dunno I dudnt really know how to take it.
So anyways she came back after being away. Things seemed ok, I mean I tried not to let my feelings show but it was hard. Then this past weekend I was feeling terrible. My now X tells me shes going away to meet someone new. I basically am in a panic, as I really dunno how to take or what to think. So I break down and ask is this someone ur interested in and shes like she has a bf and were just friends. But that just didnt stick. So she goes away all weekend and I am like feeling like crap. I could eat, I couldnt sleep .. nothing. Plus I was all worried because we got a huge storm here. So she goes away and I have facebook, and everyday I am on, its like she was rubbing in my face that she was out via her status.
So then she comes back, and I am feeling all akwards, and she is like hugging me lots and wanting to cuddle and I am like what the heck is going on. So I am like so confused....and I feel pain like I have never felt before.
Plus, she asked if it ok if this new friend or whatever comes to visit next month. i said yes but Im scared.
Im scared that I will never get over her, im scared that this friend will be something more, IM JUST SCARED!!!
Anyways, again if this is the wrong place to post this I apologize. Just dunno what to do.
Me and My gf have live together for abot a year or so...
So Thursday last week my gf finally actually told me that were done. She had gone away for awhile a couplemths back to deal with family issues. And while she was she asked if we could just take a break. She was just really stressed. Then she admitted that while away she had kissed a guy and hadnt really stopped him. She hasnt been with a guy, so I dunno I dudnt really know how to take it.
So anyways she came back after being away. Things seemed ok, I mean I tried not to let my feelings show but it was hard. Then this past weekend I was feeling terrible. My now X tells me shes going away to meet someone new. I basically am in a panic, as I really dunno how to take or what to think. So I break down and ask is this someone ur interested in and shes like she has a bf and were just friends. But that just didnt stick. So she goes away all weekend and I am like feeling like crap. I could eat, I couldnt sleep .. nothing. Plus I was all worried because we got a huge storm here. So she goes away and I have facebook, and everyday I am on, its like she was rubbing in my face that she was out via her status.
So then she comes back, and I am feeling all akwards, and she is like hugging me lots and wanting to cuddle and I am like what the heck is going on. So I am like so confused....and I feel pain like I have never felt before.
Plus, she asked if it ok if this new friend or whatever comes to visit next month. i said yes but Im scared.
Im scared that I will never get over her, im scared that this friend will be something more, IM JUST SCARED!!!
Anyways, again if this is the wrong place to post this I apologize. Just dunno what to do.
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OK?! The mixed signals are flying around this post like an antennae in the middle of a tornado! You start by saying she says you are through. Then she wants to take a break. Then she kissed a guy. Then she went away on a weekend with another woman (who supposedly has a boyfriend) so they are PROBABLY just friends.I don't blame you for being confused. Heck! I'm confused. Letting go is hard. This woman is obviously trying to figure out who she is and what she wants, while hanging on to you as a false sense of security. You are torturing yourself if you think you can ignore all these issues and they will just go away. If you love something...set it free...and you know the rest. You need to really reflect on figuring out what you can do for yourself right now and it sounds like so does she. Sounds like she is also confused and everything is just a definite maybe right now.
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i agree with leibugs advice.look after yourself first .she sounds mixed up over her sexuality and who she wants.please post again and let us know how things go we are all friends on here.
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