Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
This community is for those who are in a gay marriage, and the unique challenges that may be had in a same-sex relationship. Find support and talk to others in a same-sex marriage, and get advice from the experiences of other members.
I don't know where to turn to or what to do. Ive been married to my wife to 3 years and Ive never been more lonely. I find this to be so sad and embarrassing. Im a very loyal person and I have always had her back but the lack of mutual respect is astounding. I really do not think shes respect me at all and sadly I feel like we fell in a routine where we rather be unhappily together then happy and a part. I want to have the chance to be happy and start over but she is a very vindictive person and when separation is brought up she is willing to take everything I work so hard for away from me. I have busted my behind to get my act together and try to become the person I always hoped to become but honestly she break my spirit. I sound like a complainer but Ive been holding this in for all this time and put up a pretty good front to all those around when in reality I desperately seeking for something better. There are so much things Ive been holding in but sadly I haven't had anyone to vent to.. My wife is the jealous type so i don't have many friends.. Im only 27 and i feel like im too young to be in such a hopeless state. I don't know what to do and dont know what advice would help me but i wish i could vent more and had some one who would really listen...
There will always be pivotal times in life where you have to make difficult decisions. These happen in both small and big ways; entirely meant to teach you self love and offer you a new view of your life.
Three times in my own life I walked away from major 'things' to find my inner peace and happiness. I have no regrets because I learned that my happiness and growth was much more important than the material I could replace.
Remember...
Time will always move forward and only You can slow down progress. Love yourself enough to do what's right.
Good luck
At this point, what is she trying to take from you? You could file her threats as harassment, and if she is trying to take something that is rightfully yours, since you're married, you can take her to court to fight for them. Divorce is not an easy thing...I have a friend going through it right now, and it's not a quick nor painless process, but, you will make it through if you choose to go down this path.
Listen, this life is not all about being selfless for the sake of others. You must also take into account your own happiness as well. So, if she is not making you happy, if she is not willing to change or you feel so broken and hopeless, then start taking the steps to break free of this woman so you can live your life the way you really want to.
Get out there and find what makes you happy, find that person that makes you want to be better for yourself and for her. Find that someone that supports you and builds you up instead of breaking down the stairs as you try and climb them. Okay?
It will all come together and work out in the end. I promise. Hang in there.