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I have been seeing this girl for about 3 mths. Now I know that to some this post may be a tad dumb. But I have to get it out and hopefully someone can help me sort it all out.
I have been dealing with depression for years. And we I met this girl I told her that. She seemed fine with it. We have done alot of fun things together and seemed to be in love.
Last weekend everything turned upside down in my world. She was angry at me because I was cancelling plans that we had made to see each other on the weekend. The next thing I knew she was breaking up with me. She had a list of things that she wasent happy about. Its reall hurt and I felt very sad about it all. I sent a email saying I understood her concerns and I also understood if it wasnt meant to be it wasnt meant to be, but I still loved and cared for her. The next day she writes saying she was sorry and that she in fact didnt want to break up after all. So we met on sunday and tried to hash things out. This past week everything seemed ok, then yesterday she was kinda upset because I wasnt online the night before. I was having pc issues. She was like well you could have texted me. So i kind knew she was upset. then after that she seemed really quiet so I was trying to keep the communication up. I asked her if she still wanted to come up to see me on sunday. and she said she thought so and I was like well what do you mean, and then thats when everything turned upside doewn again. She said she was having doubts about us. Said she had done some reading on depression and anxiety. She said she wasnt sure she could deal with mne being depressed all the time and basically again said she wanted out.
I dont know what to do. I mean I guess I cant do anything. I can't make her stay. But it still hurts. She says she wants to be friends. But I am thinking even as friends Im still going to be depressed. So how is that going to make anything different.
I wish that I could just move on without hurting. But I still am hurting thats the thing.
I have been dealing with depression for years. And we I met this girl I told her that. She seemed fine with it. We have done alot of fun things together and seemed to be in love.
Last weekend everything turned upside down in my world. She was angry at me because I was cancelling plans that we had made to see each other on the weekend. The next thing I knew she was breaking up with me. She had a list of things that she wasent happy about. Its reall hurt and I felt very sad about it all. I sent a email saying I understood her concerns and I also understood if it wasnt meant to be it wasnt meant to be, but I still loved and cared for her. The next day she writes saying she was sorry and that she in fact didnt want to break up after all. So we met on sunday and tried to hash things out. This past week everything seemed ok, then yesterday she was kinda upset because I wasnt online the night before. I was having pc issues. She was like well you could have texted me. So i kind knew she was upset. then after that she seemed really quiet so I was trying to keep the communication up. I asked her if she still wanted to come up to see me on sunday. and she said she thought so and I was like well what do you mean, and then thats when everything turned upside doewn again. She said she was having doubts about us. Said she had done some reading on depression and anxiety. She said she wasnt sure she could deal with mne being depressed all the time and basically again said she wanted out.
I dont know what to do. I mean I guess I cant do anything. I can't make her stay. But it still hurts. She says she wants to be friends. But I am thinking even as friends Im still going to be depressed. So how is that going to make anything different.
I wish that I could just move on without hurting. But I still am hurting thats the thing.
Sending you a BIG hug!
Topaztrucker is right..., you are not alone. Heartbreak/heartache shows no preference or favoritism, there is such a wide range of women here that can understand what you're going through. This is the time to nurture yourself now, allow the waves of emotion to wash over you but see it as a cleansing experience..., you will come through this if you allow yourself to give the love you have inside of you for others to Yourself for a while..., if your love is good enough for them it's good enough for You! When you have that right, you'll start to see the right kind of love from a partner you are desiring be drawn into your life, someone that will support you through your depression too, someone that understands and isn't afraid of it ((hugs)) Wishing you all the very best, with love & peace...
I know all in all I need to take care of myself. I just feel so confused.
She is suppose to be coming to see me tomorrow to talk things out. I am not sure what will come of it. But I am hoping to at least make her understand things better on my end.
it sounds to me that your girlfriend is the one with issues not you. you loved her the best you can. if thats not good enough for her move on and find a better girlfriend. remember you are a good person and deserve the best. god made you special . work on yourself as a person and help other around you and soon your perfect mate will find you, because of your good heart. before you know it you wont classify yourself as having depression at all. good luck sweetie.