Jealousy Support Group
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...
Hello
Hubby has to go to his parents beach town where we have been in the winter. He has to go to be there for his mom's surgery. He is an angel heart. However, his parents like to take walks with the dogs and he usually can't say no to their requests. Thats just how he is. Actually it is a nice quality in him. Family oriented. However, this time of the year that town is full of tourists.....who wear teeny bikinis:(
Also his relative started a coffee shop near a beach and he is close to her and woul want to visit her new coffee shop.
We have not been to a beach unless it is an isolated beach in the winter when there is nobody around or after sunset at a beacha little distance from our house. We don't do those very ofte either. Mosty becaus eof our busy lives and for having to drive 1 hour to get to the beach. It is still one of the nice things we do...mostly on a full moon night else the waters look a little dark and scary!!
Anyways. So we don't go to beachses when there are people wearng tiny clothes I really don't see any reaon why women cannot wear more modest swimwear...like shorts which men wear and a longer swim top.
I would have felt alright if I was WITH him during his visit. However, I was schedled for a very important training around that time. THe original date of his mom's surgery allowed me to go with him if I chose to do so.
But the new date which was announced yesterday, is at the time of my training. I need to attend that training manatory for my job.
I love him and he loves me a lot. But this issue has caused me a lot of anxiety.
I do get angry and resnetful sometimes about being in this culture. But I love my husband dearly an we have managed situations to ahve the greatest comfort for both os us.
This is a new challenge. I don't need moralization or ;get over it' and such comments. I could do with some support and prayers to help me through this situation. It is very challenging for me...something a Jealous personw ould understand.
So please no moralization.
But any creative solutions, support and such would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
Hubby has to go to his parents beach town where we have been in the winter. He has to go to be there for his mom's surgery. He is an angel heart. However, his parents like to take walks with the dogs and he usually can't say no to their requests. Thats just how he is. Actually it is a nice quality in him. Family oriented. However, this time of the year that town is full of tourists.....who wear teeny bikinis:(
Also his relative started a coffee shop near a beach and he is close to her and woul want to visit her new coffee shop.
We have not been to a beach unless it is an isolated beach in the winter when there is nobody around or after sunset at a beacha little distance from our house. We don't do those very ofte either. Mosty becaus eof our busy lives and for having to drive 1 hour to get to the beach. It is still one of the nice things we do...mostly on a full moon night else the waters look a little dark and scary!!
Anyways. So we don't go to beachses when there are people wearng tiny clothes I really don't see any reaon why women cannot wear more modest swimwear...like shorts which men wear and a longer swim top.
I would have felt alright if I was WITH him during his visit. However, I was schedled for a very important training around that time. THe original date of his mom's surgery allowed me to go with him if I chose to do so.
But the new date which was announced yesterday, is at the time of my training. I need to attend that training manatory for my job.
I love him and he loves me a lot. But this issue has caused me a lot of anxiety.
I do get angry and resnetful sometimes about being in this culture. But I love my husband dearly an we have managed situations to ahve the greatest comfort for both os us.
This is a new challenge. I don't need moralization or ;get over it' and such comments. I could do with some support and prayers to help me through this situation. It is very challenging for me...something a Jealous personw ould understand.
So please no moralization.
But any creative solutions, support and such would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
"she is having nice breasts, right?" Or: "I know that you like her ass." He then looks at me, quite surprised and mostly he answers: Yes, she is hot, but you are much hotter, you know this very well."
So, he then showes me that I'm for him even more attractive like all those naked or half naked women and then it's okay for me. I know that he is also sometimes visiting the beach with his male buddies and then they probably watch even more, making comments like men do. I'm also watching if some good looking guy in speedos is walking by, it's only human. And doesn' mean anything, it's only watching. Do you feel self-confident with how you look? Does your husband gives you enough reassurance that he finds you attractive? You don't have to compete with those young skinny women, the most important is that you know he wants only you, even if he has eyes in his head and sees all the other women.
Just keep on your mind that he loves only you and that nothing will happen if he would notice some attractive girls on the beach. It's the biology of men that they watch if other women are almost naked, but there is huge difference if a man goes in a stripper club or taking a walk together with his parents.