Jealousy Support Group

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...

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Chef71 03/18/2018

A number of years ago I lost the love of my life due to her jealousy. I never gave her any reason to think I was interested in anyone else, but that didn't stop her from being jealous.

One time there was a 3-day weekend coming up and I really needed to get out of town because my job was so stressful. I wanted to get into the mountains and chill out. I asked her to join me but she said she needed to help her adult son with something. I practically begged her to go with me. But in the end I told her I had to go and if necessary I'd go alone.

Well, I went to the high mountains and relaxed, fished and read a good book. 3 days later, after not seeing a single other human, I started on my way home. The first phone booth I came to, I called my honey, to let her know I was ok and on my way home.

The first words out of her mouth were, "Don't bother coming home you S.O.B. I "know " you were ****ing another woman. I tried my best to convince her I was faithful to her, but to no avail. When I got home she was gone. 3 days went by and no word from her. Finally she showed up and when I asked where she had been, she replied, "You had a girl. I had a man".

After a very stressful few weeks the relationship ended. I have never gotten over that. Oh, yeah sure I dated but I never found anyone to compare to the lost love of my life.

jillstewart 03/18/2018

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry. I don’t know what to say. That is a horrible situation. My heart goes out to you.

Chef71 03/19/2018

Thank you, Jill.

jillstewart 03/19/2018

You’re welcome. I wish you the best.

Chef71 03/19/2018

I must be one of the world's stupidest guys. 25 years later and many GF's, and I STILL think of her every day and sigh. I wish I could stop thinking about her. Don't get me wrong, I'd never harass her but damn, I still love her. Stupid, huh ?

jillstewart 03/19/2018

I don’t know if it’s stupid. Sometimes things get in the way with the ones we love. You can’t help that she was broken. Your love was pure.

Tonie2018 03/22/2018

hi...that is such a sad story...but honestly she could have investigated more instead of assuming you did that especially since you invited her....so yeah she was a bit trigger happy and believed something she had no proof of at all...poor you just had a good get away and them that happened....maybe it was more of an issue of her feeling threatened by your independence away from her...or her ego was hurt and she was a bit selfish...who knows

nixon1972 04/09/2018

NO NOT STUPID, really, I do know exactly one part you mentioned. For many men it is impossible to forget a relationship that was deep even many many years later. Regret comes with this. I have also been stuck on a woman until the next prospect came up. When another woman impressed me , only then I could let go of the one before. This happens a lot to a lot of men. This is why when a woman wants to deescalate a relationship she says "we are just friends" and it seldom is comfortable for a man.

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