Jealousy Support Group

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...

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Jealous & insecure

fridanyc
fridanyc
In all my past relationships I always felt more attractive than my partner. I was used to getting a lot of attention from others now for the first time I feel as if my current partner gets all the attention. I hate feeling jealous especially because my partner is so outgoing and a people person. I especially hate when my partner has these random conversations with strangers this usually happens 90 % of the time we go out. When we arent together I find myself stressing about the random conversations that can be taking place and whether they can lead to flirting or something more.
MendingToday
MendingToday
I feel the same way, I wonder if he is flirting with other women when I'm not around, but it is a fleeting thing, and what I have learned is you have to be ok with you, before you can honestly feel better with anyone else, it's true. It's been a long time I'm 49, it took me a long time to realize that I am enough by myself. I don't need someone else validating my awesomeness. When you know your awesome, people can see it! They don't even question it, when you got your self together and little things like that don't get to you, people see it. They also see when you are insecure, they see it, it's something you do wear all over your face.

So I say flip the script, just for a day and think how awesome you are, and let it be known in the way you carry yourself, fake it til you make it, just do it as an experiment and see how you feel at the end of the day. Then if it works, then start doing it on a daily basis, then it becomes a habit, if it doesn't work, then go to a therapist, it's something about you that it is coming out this way, and you can fix you, you can't fix other people.

Hope this helps and hugs, YOU ARE AWESOME!