Jealousy Support Group
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...
Ok, so let me start by saying that my ex and my current boyfriend are friends. Even though my boyfriend and I got back together (we had broken up because of said ex), and my ex now has a fiance, I can't stand the thought of them being near each other. They are both males, and during my last relationship between my boyfriend and I, they got drunk and my ex gave my current boyfriend oral sex. My boyfriend lied to me about this for quite some time, saying that it didn't happen while we were together, because he says he knew it would destroy me. My ex is very affectionate toward my boyfriend, kissing him, demanding to be cuddled, groping him, and while my boyfriend doesn't exactly encourage such behavior, he doesn't stop them either. He says that he is in love with me and always has been and that it was a dumb thing that would only happen once. Right now he is over there helping them move and my jealousy is getting the best of me. I'm depressed to the point I am sick. Am I simply over reacting because of something that I know happened in the past or am I right to feel this way?
However, I believe that exes are ex for a reason and if one had any kind of relationship that stepped out of a friendship, its just healthier in my opinion to avoid any further contact.
The behaviours you listed, even though your partner did not respond, but him being in such a situation is bound to create feelings of insecurity.
Also if he has not placed a boundary or stopped those behaviours, its normal to feel more insecure about these things.
It might be better for you to be around when they interact? Or that you don't really want them to interact any more?
If they crossed the lines and seem to be at risk of doing so or make you feel uncomfortable, then partners should keep distance with that person or ex.
thats may take on these things.