Yea it sux, but if we don't have any details we can't really give you an opinion, has he done anything to give you reason to be jealous?

My thing is that I am always thinking the worst and then I start putting things in my own head that are possibly not true and then I react on them. Since i been told before that I put things in my head too.

I've dealt with this in the past as well. I also have to ask, is there strong evidence that he's messing around? Are there texts or emails or Facebook messages? Or is it other things?

If you are like me, I couldn't STAND him talking to other women or girls. I would cringe and seethe when we watched movies and attractive women came on the screen. It doesn't help that he could be very flirtatious when he wanted to, but I often mistook friendly banter as his desire to want much, much more from the other person. There were endless fights and hurtful arguments because of this.

I've since cooled down a lot on my reactions. And now I am working on mental peace. I have come to realize that, in my situation, my jealousy was a way of expressing my extreme self loathing. In the end it had nothing to do with my husband or other women, but that I had never been happy with myself.

Now I know that the only way to positivity in my life is to accept and love myself and all the good that is in my life. It all starts within. If you are able I strongly suggest that you look up Louise Hay, whether on YouTube or checking a book out at the library. When I discovered her it was like a light bulb turned on. Hearing her words really touched me. Over the years I had heard over and over again, "it's all in your head" or "get over it" and wanted to desperately, but never invested myself in working at it. You really have to be willing to do the work, because it is just that, work. And after a lifetime of training our brains to think negatively, well, it will be a full commitment to learn the positive.

But I firmly belief that Louise can help. She teaches affirmations and the idea that every negative thought we have is giving the universe direction for our lives. I know this may sound ridiculous and far-fetched, but if the negative had so much power over us, how can the positive not be used in an equally strong way?

Basically you have to counter each negative thought with a positive, and just think positively in general. Tell yourself you love yourself and eventually it will become true.....then what does it matter what anyone else does to you?

Please if you can, take this advice. I wish you happiness!

I am the exact same way! I just joined here and it's nice to see and read I am not the only one. I am married for a long time and lately can not stand him chatting with other girls. I know he would never cheat on me but then there is this thought well maybe he's sneaking or maybe this. It's caused a lot of pain over the last year in our relationship and just within the last 2 days I have come to realize it is ME that has confidence and self esteem problems that started when I was little and its not fair to have him feel the burden as I metally work through the pain. I also lost my mother from cancer 5 years ago and I am the type to hold all my feelings in when it comes to something like this but lately it's really bothering me..