Jealousy Support Group
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...
I have been friends with *Hannah for a few years now. But I have recently fallen in love with her. I told her about it, and she said that she might like me back. Obviously, I was thrilled. But then she stopped talking to me all that much. And when she did talk to me, it was always about these guys that she liked and how they don't notice her.
It was ok every once in a while, but then she started getting really upset and telling me that nobody loves her. I tried telling her that I loved her and that I would take care of her. But she refused that and continued to pay all of her attention to the boys who barely know she exists. I have become extremely jealous of these boys and anyone who spends time with her that is a boy.
I has affected our friendship a lot and she said that if I don't stop being so jealous, she will refuse to be friends with me anymore. What should I do?? I don't want to lose her!
It was ok every once in a while, but then she started getting really upset and telling me that nobody loves her. I tried telling her that I loved her and that I would take care of her. But she refused that and continued to pay all of her attention to the boys who barely know she exists. I have become extremely jealous of these boys and anyone who spends time with her that is a boy.
I has affected our friendship a lot and she said that if I don't stop being so jealous, she will refuse to be friends with me anymore. What should I do?? I don't want to lose her!
I viewed your profile - I'm pretty sure that in being a lesbian yourself, you will agree that you can't "change" someone's preference. If she is into guys, than she's into guys. I'm not gay so am only speaking based on my beliefs - but I have always beleived it isn't a choice, it's who you are. You're asking her to change who she is.
I'm sure she loves and respects you as a friend, but not more, so you need to decide if you can handle only being friends with her. If you can't, and it causes you stress, than maybe you should walk away from the friendship. Do what is best for you, as hard as it may be at the time. And remember, you are very young, there will be many more friendships and relationships.
Good luck.