Jealousy Support Group

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...

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sosad21 05/18/2011

I am living with a jealous man. He has been married before and was cheated on by his ex. He and I have been dating for 1.5 years now and I finally made the big step of moving in. Now, he calls me all of the time at work, with interigating tone, whos there, what are you doing. What guys have you talked to. I have to talk to men in my job. Even if I ask them how their wives and children are he says that is cheating and fights with me stating that I need mens attention. But on the other hand, he is still texting his ex wife about issues with the divorce which was 5 years before I met him and he talks to his friend in another town which is female. He says they went to school together and he's known her forever. So what makes it right for him to have female friends, but I cannot even smile at another man without being accused of having sex with them. He has trust issues and I know he has never cheated on me, but I have never cheated on him, that is not a belief of mine. Is this worth losing the relationship over or should I stick it out. I confront him about it and he does not admit to having an issue. I feel like I have to prove myself. Not really fair. Is this worth leaving him?

deleted_user 05/19/2011

The worrying bit for me in your post is that he does not except he's got a problem. How do things improve when he cant see what he's doing and that he may well drive you away.
I'm the jealous one in our relationship, and i know you can get drawn into 1 question after another, the more information i get the more questions pop into my head.
From a jealous persons point of view it is very difficult to satisfy us, we are always doubtful of your answers.
Are you a strong person? Because your going to have to be to keep this relationship going, if thats what you want.

sosad21 05/19/2011

Thanks for the advice and thats what I was affraid of.

YouAreMyForever 05/19/2011

My boyfriend and I are BOTH the jealous ones.... which I guess is better than only one of us because we both understand it.... But I don't always think he's cheating on me, It's just that I don't want him talking to another girl when he could be talking to ME, I even get jealous of his guy friends... It used to be so bad that we would delete people off each others social websites and not allow each other to talk to people... But we worked through it... Just try to be more understanding of why he does it.. It gets really annoying and even mean sometimes, but it isn't always because they don't trust you.
I don't feel good enough for my boyfriend, which is why I get so crazy when he talks to (or is with) someone else. Maybe they have something I don't, maybe they're better than me...and it scares me, which is why I get mad at him..
It's all just fear of losing you. Ask him to calm it down a little, write him notes every day telling him how much you love him and him only. Reassure him that HE is the one you want to be with and nobody else matters.
Hope that helped!

deleted_user 05/23/2011

i too get jealous of a friend...but my girlfriends friend states he loves her and wants to marry her . as many times as she says no to him

honestly she wont let him go....dont no what to do

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