You are 14 years old!!! You are beautiful! You have your whole life ahead of you - if he cheated on you, than he's nothing. It's his loss. You deserve someone who will love and respect you.

No ones perfect so I'll guarantee you shes not. Im not going to tell you not to get drunk because frankly, when I went through some of the awful shit my ex did to me it didn't help for people to tell me how to cope at the beginning. Eventually though you'll heal from this. It will be slow and painful probs but it will heal and you will move on.

Him cheating doesnt mean youre the one who's not good enough, it means he's not good enough for you. You deserve better than that. Every person deserves faithfulness. You have to respect and love yourself enough to tell him he can't be with you after behaving like that, or else, trust me, it will lead to him not respecting you and always thinking in the back of his mind that he knows how much he can get away with (ie cheat again).

You're too young to put up with his crap, and I'm not trying to be condescending here, I'm too young for that kind of crap too. We are both too young to have our hearts broken like that, these are the years we should be happy and laughing and loving and being loved. Not the years we should be at home crying because we don't feel good enough for some loser who can't control himself. Not the years a beautiful girl like you should be hurting herself because a guy was too stupid to realise how good he had it with you.

You probably won't agree with any of the stuff I've said, but I sincerely hope you can come to realise that the loss is his, not yours. xxx

You shouldn't hurt yourself because of some guy. Don't abuse yourself over some guy. Getting wasted is self abuse. Love yourself and others will love you too. Trust me, I am 34 yrs old and I started drinking at 14. It's been 20 yrs of drinking and too much self abuse because of men,. I stopped drinking on May 8th finally. I finally got it that i shouldn't hurt myself because of other people. I hope you learn this lesson a lot sooner than I did.

Congrats on not drinking anymore Crossing! Must feel good...unfortunately I rely on outside influences to get me through my evenings most nights...so good for you that's awesome

lk, yeah I did too. Alcohol got me through many, many lonely nights but all we are doing is repressing issues that we need to deal with. I am finally letting myself feel the pain instead of stuffing it down with alcohol.

It's okay...You don't have to worry anymore... i called him this morning...his FIANCE answered.... So i ODed... and maybe going into a psychoward for a while...whatever. not like it matters anymore.... i just wish, honestly. that i could talk to him, im not mad. i just need him, as a friend. that is all... but apparently i don't get that either.

ONCE A CHEATED ALWAYS. you get away from for a while then it can be a simple arguement with a spouse and then damn you did again. You are young if you choose to stay you probably be a bitter 21 year old woman like me.

psych ward? you are definately in the right place here with us then haha!

tell me you didint get his name tattood on your arm?