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Totally. Not feeling good enough is at the root of mine. Three years of talk therapy and can't get this beast in control. Deep wounds that makes us believe we are unlovable.

Fixingme:
I am so sorry you can relate, but am so glad to hear that I am not alone! 7 years of talk therapy and, though I’ve improved, I still struggle with feeling unlovable and never good enough. It’s damaging my relationship because I internalize that belief so much that I externalize it in my behaviors.

Wow... Core belief. That's precisely it. I hope to continue making sense of all these feelings, and feeling better about myself. Long journey ahead. Thanks @jillstewart

Thank you fixingme! And I hope the same for you! :)

Yes. I have held on to that as long as I can remember. Its incredibly destructive for me because i can never seem to keep those feelings from effecting my life for very long.

I feel I'm great But then that deep down, as you said 'core belief' thinks that my partner, of course' wishes they were with someone else. If I can't calm down my jealousy - I think they would rather be with someone else with some reality to that. :(

Yes. It's horrible to feel that way. I've never felt pretty enough,smart enough, etcetc. Just because im so jealous of anyone who I think looks better/is better than I am.
I want to get better from this but I have no idea how

Yes. I feel that way all the time. Mostly because i do everything to help everyone and I'm used every time and tossed away when I'm not needed anymore. In relationships and my family. Ive always been a pessimist but it's because i dont believe im good enough because i have no faith in others morals. I'll never be good enough because I'm the boring 1 because i follow the rules. So i always feel I'm never going to be good enough because I'm not bad enough. So my jealously rages because im always left behing for big get togethers now because they dont want me to ruin it. Like me keeping ppl out of jail is a bad thing. Maybe, and im no doctor, try to think of your heart as a superhero and your mind as the villain. Then whenever your mind is getting to you reming yourself that your heart is the superhero and the superhero never staus down no matter how hurt. It gives me strength telling myself my heart will always mend eventually.

I think that feeling "not good enough" is the root cause of jealousy and no amount of "outer work" will help you to completely fix that. I am speaking from my experience, I used to get very jealous of my ex looking at porn, or interacting with other beautiful women. I am young, fit and have had plastic surgery, and eventhough I am considered beautiful by most people on the inside I feel like a mess and not good or pretty enough. Maybe you are in the same place as me, maybe the issue is not with being pretty or not but it can be with not being smart enough, funny enough, have enough power and wealth among another reasons. Again I will give you and advice from my experience and for what I have recently have been discovering. I really need to work on knowing myself, accepting myself, heal past traumas, etc. I am not saying that getting in shape, get an education, and doing external work won't help, it will help but to a certain degree. For a drastic change, there has to be some deep inner work which will eventually will lead you to feel at peace with yourself and you will not have the need to attach yourself to other people (including your partner) for validation. This sounds all very pretty but I am also struggling a lot, however I am aiming to overcome not only jealousy but also all kinds of limitations that held us from living the life we deeply desire at the root of our hearts. This may sound like a silly ad but is really not haha but there is one youtube channel that has been helping me with this (actualized.org), I recommend you to check it out. Feel free to message me also if you need someone to talk to :)

I do all the time, i always think that my wife will find someone who is better in something or better looking, don't know how to change it, feel so hopeless

I have felt the same way and it has destroyed my life as I knew it . I am trying to rebuild my life . So if you can reverse these feelings or get them under control , I urge you to do the best you can and work hard at getting better

I love that there is a bit of recovery speaking. I'm so there, and I barely handle my attempt at a loving relationship - can't stand my painful jealousy, nor can my partner. Almost break up often. Going to check out those youtube things, Angellore.