Jealousy Support Group

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...

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cant do this anymore

bluemoon23
bluemoon23
i'm so tired of being suspicious and jealous for no reason at all. sometimes i wonder if my boyfriend is better off without me because all i do is drive him crazy over the smallest things. i have to take a klonopin just to calm myself down because i get worked up over the "what ifs". i know a lot of it has to do with my obsessive thoughts but when will it end? i feel like i have no one to talk to.
Shai
Shai
i feel ya...one question, though. what's klonopin? i think i might need some of that or something.

i hate the same feeling. and it's not that i'm jealous of all these other people...it's that i'm just insecure.

but i feel like my SO is better off without me. and i have no one else to tell me any different...
deleted_user
deleted_user
i know how you feel i am like that with my BF since the start, and now its worse because he gave me a reason to feel like this , he cheated, but the sad part is i was the same with him b4 he cheated , it really sucks when u feel that way about the one u love, anything in your past that could cause u to be like this?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I totally understand, I get that way too. And then because of the jealousy I feel even worse about myself and more insecure. My fiance is wonderful, tells me all the time that he loves me, and my fears have nothing to do with him. It's that at times I feel so low about myself that I can't picture anyone being happy with me.

One thing that helps a lot is if instead of complaining to him or getting cold and withdrawn, I just tell him I'm feeling insecure and ask for some reassurance. He is usually happy to give it; it's frustrating for him when I'm upset and there isn't anything he can do about it, but he feels good when I just ask for something specific that I need and let him respond.