I'm currently dealing with a similar situation, but in my case is related to porn.When I met my current boyfriend he told me he was trying to quit porn.He confided in me and told me that, I didn't ask him too but he did. I know he was open with me, and I should feel grateful that the confided in me, but instead my stupid jealousy just distorted everything, Since he told me that he was trying to quit porn I assumed he wouldn't never watch porn anymore, which is kind of unreasonable of me to think. Fast forward to some months ago, I started being very insecure and jealous about stuff that didn't even made sense and he start using porn again (only occasionally 1 or two times a week) and this has made me very insecure and anxious. Currently he completely gave up his porn usage in order for me to feel better and start fixing our relationship. I feel like I'm such a hypocrite because I am bisexual and I like porn a lot, I even watch it occasionally to satisfy that lesbian part of me but feel insecure if he watches his porn. I dont want him to completely gave up his porn usage, I just don't want to be bothered or jealous by it. Since I am bisexual I know watching porn with him will be very sexy if could just stop this stupid unreasonable insecurity. (We have sometimes watch it together and I have gotten very turned on but not always because sometimes my jealousy gets in the way). In addition I'm very self conscious about my physique even though I have long blonde hair, I am skinny, had a breast augmentation 5 years ago and people (men and woman) are always complementing me, I am constantly looking to be perfect which is very tiring, I feel like I could get more plastic surgery and still not be happy with my looks, because I am always comparing myself to hollywood actrees and/or porn stars. I feel like this jealousy is more about myself than the actions of my boyfriend, when I feel very confident about myself (which is rarely) my jealousy levels diminish significantly. This sounds so cliche but I think that best way to defeat jealousy is to start loving yourself and if you can fix something you dont like about yourself fix it, but don't overdoit because you will never be satisfied . Try not to compare yourself to other woman, take the bisexual approach and admire other woman instead, at least that's what I am trying to do haha...if you learn to love yourself you will come out as the special unique woman you are (I need to start doing this too) and you will feel sexier and worthy of love and your jeaolousy will eventually start fading.

Hey Frostie, are you still around? I’d love to talk to you, as I am in the same situation.

Please stop to consider that your jealousy may very well cause the end of the relationship. I don't mean to find fault but it is your issue, not his.

Just saying, I always consider my jealousy may cause the end of my relationship. I also know it's my glitch. Still, arrrrgh. A very cute young woman walks her dog by twice a day. My brain thinks, 'oh I hope my girlfriend doesn't see her'. So then several weeks later my G F is out chatting with her, says the young woman doesn't easily make friends and is lonely. Says "I make a point of talking with her because I knew what it was like being new in an area" I thought "I'll bet you talk with her" and other thoughts. She doesn't ever want to 'hear my jealousy' so no support. The woman just walked by again. I HATE her. I wish she'd move, or even meaner thoughts. I do all kinds of self-help, had therapy for a thousand years, and still - I HATE her. I cringe with pain and fear when all she does is walk by. It's not any purposeful thinking and I know it's irrational, destructive, and painful - but it sure pops up in an instant.