We cannot help who we fall for. It can be good to go out of our comfort zone. I had never been out of my race either until two years ago. I am a white lady and was always with skinny white boys myself. They were not very healthy relationships though.
I met my boyfriend two years ago he is half black and half Japaneses! I was not sure how I could have made such a change but he stole my heart in a different way. We loved music and he would sing karaoke with me. He had a career and goals. There are things that I have to get use to but I think my favorite thing has been the food! He has such culture and I have never been with anyone so open to trying different things! I mean I am the nub here but I have loved that I have someone that wants to eat a whole fried fish brain! (I know I probably lost you know) LOL but it has been so amazing that I honestly don't even think about anyone else but him! I am happy and if others can't except that then they need to check themselves.

Your family will have to deal with it. My mom objected to my wedding, I ignored her advice, and have been happily married. My wife does not hold a grudge and her and my mom have been close and my wife was upset when they moved to Florida. You found someone nice, let your parents say what they want and have a nice life with someone who loves you and your parents will come around.

I totally understand where you are coming from, I have posted an article in this forum called 23 years and counting. My family were and to some extent still are against my marriage. I am a white guy married to a beautiful black woman, it came to a point where I had to disown my own flesh and blood for a few years due to the ignorance and racist attitude of my family. (The sad thing is that they haven't changed). We overcame this as we focused on building a life together and ignoring what others think. Our daughters are aware of my family's attitude and are okay with it the sad thing is that they are missing out on our kids growing up, don't get me wrong we see them once a year but that is all we can tolerate.
Surround yourself with people who love and accept you and your partner for who you both are. Obviously speak to your family about it but if they can't accept your relationship then that's their problem, make a life for yourself with this guy and may you have many more happy years together

Thanks y'all. I needed some encouragement. It's shed some light on the people I surround myself with.
I am utterly head over heels in love with this man. I know who he is, inside and out, and he is the most beautiful man, with an amazing soul.
Past relationships that I have been in, have been abusive, destructive, or just down right toxic. I would think my family would just be happy to see me in a good, healthy relationship with a man who adores me. Sadly, skin color is all they see.
I see a life, a future with him. My family doesn't have to like it....but to be apart of my life, and my childrens lives...they will need to accept it. Thank you for the responses!

I'm in a very similar boat as you girl. I'm a fair skinned, blonde haired, green eyed caucasian woman dating a Vietnamese guy. English is his second language as well, which makes it harder for my parents to accept than if he was strictly raised in America and came across more "american". I come from a very traditional conservative family and my parents never expected me to date anyone outside of my race. It's very hard but I feel the same way as this is the best man I've ever came across and see a bright future with. I'm sure as a relationship like this progresses parents are bound to come around as the idea becomes more familiar and becomes more of the 'norm' in your family. I'm not sure about your family but a large concern for mine I believe is how my children will look, which is something I've had to think about as well after having a completely different image of what my family would look like prior to this relationship. It's comforting reading a post like yours since I can't relate to any of my friends as they're all in same race relationships.

It isn't easy being in this situation. But when I am with him, nothing else matters. Everything feels okay when he is around. As far as kids go, he has 2 kids, as do I. Having kids with eachother is not an option for either of us. We are in our 30's, and do not want anymore. So that isn't an issue. It's amazing how your heart wants someone so bad, and there is no control over it. And truthfully, I don't want to control it. He stole my heart, and I'm letting him keep it! I'm glad you found happiness. Screw what anyone else thinks!

The guy across the street is afro-american, his wife is white, they seem very nice, and things working out well for them.