Interracial Relationships Support Group

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Appreciation

annmarie3
annmarie3
My boyfriend thinks I don't appreciate the things he does for me and that I've been being selfish. This has been a rough summer with me living at home with my parents....so I don't get to see him as much as I'd like, but I will be back with him in a week and a day. How can I prove to him how much I love and appreciate everything he does for me??? I have visited him (very much against my parent's will) 3 times which total 2 weeks put together, and I just sent him a care package today.
Rosetaz
Rosetaz
Where is he in relation to you? College?

Are you both young and just beginning to have a taste of independence? Don't let him make you feel that you should say you are sorry. I would bet you have nothing to be sorry for. I'm quite a bit older and have been through relationships where I was made to feel less than worthy of the man. All false, all intended to make me feel bad about myself and do more for him.

It's best not to keep count of what a person does for the other and not accuse another.

Love that is shared is all about giving without keeping score. When two people love each other and care, both are satisfied and not made to feel inadequate.
annmarie3
annmarie3
Yes we are in college, i am 22 and he is 20. He doesn't make me feel less than worthy, and I am the happiest I have been since high school. I think he just felt abandoned that I went back to my parents house for the summer while he stayed in our college town. We thought this summer would be ok, but it turns out my parents are against our relationship much more than I had thought just a few months ago, so we have not gotten to see each other as much as we would have liked. I just want him to know how much he means to me, and just saying it isn't doing the trick anymore.
Rosetaz
Rosetaz
That's true, words don't speak as loud as actions. You know him better than I do. All men want to be cared for. Usually it's the little things we do for them.

I think they want to know we think of them often and appreciate them. Last thing either person in a relationship wants to do is feel they are being taken for granted.