Interracial Relationships Support Group
This community is dedicated to the challenges presented when two people of different religious backgrounds form a relationship. Mingling different religions has both positive and potentially challenging aspects, including the religious preferences of children, religious holidays and traditions, schools and religious education and potentially different moral or ethical...
ok so a cut off contact with my friend since highschool about a month ago because of a racist statement she made to me "no offense but i told my daughter if she ever came home with a black boyfriend i would fckin disown her ass" i let her know this statement did in fact offend me and i no longer wanted to be associated with her ignorant ass. so today i get an email from her apologizing stating that she was mad that day cause her youngest daughter was gettn bullied by a little black boy at the WIC office and people say things they dont mean out of anger. the problem with that for me is i dont say things like that out of anger and i DO think she means it. the entire time i have been with my bf i have NEVER pulled the race card or called him inappropriate racial slurs. i dont look at color difference period. even when he makes comments about white people i refuse to throw race back in his face. so anyway even though i appreciate her attempt at an apology i dont believe it is sincere as i know she probably would disown her daughter. am i being ridiculous? should i look past this? ive asked advice from some friends at work and they think she is entitled to her opinions and friends dont always have the same views that i should forgive her, but i just dont think i will ever be able to look past it. any advice on how you would handle the situation?
It is true alot of people say things in anger that they do not mean..... I for one would never say such spiteful thing like this. But i have heard them said to me. Yes they hurt.. They sting to the bone. And they never go away. That is why I am now divorced from my first husband. Because I could not live with the words he said to me when he was angry.
So Dig deep. Pray lots. Talk to your friend. Ask her. Have her tell you exactly how she feels about interracial couples. TAke her someplace that may make her feel out of place. and put her to the test.
I have done this same thing. I no longer feel right with people of my own race. Why? I do not know.... Any other race and I am fine! just not my own........