Sorry you are experiecing this child-like attitude, and thKeep in mind that if he hasn't shown "even a little bit" of remorse, it could be that he hasn't gotten it all out of his system yet OR it could be that he doesn't think what he has done was "that bad". I feel (through your words) it might be one or the other or both. Have you asked him about his denial of sex and where that comes from?

In the face of lack of remorse and withholding intimacy, I would bet there is way more to it than what you think. Odds are he is cheating more than you know and probably not "just" on the webcam.

First, I am so sorry. Second.. is he the father of your baby? And are you guys pretty young? Sometimes I think that people get scared and they handle it in extremely inappropriate ways, but not everyone has coping skills. (myself included). The part that I find worrisome is that he doesn't seem sorry. You need to make it clear to him that he will lose you if this doesn't stop. People are dumb, they do horrible things, but I believe a solution can be found if someone loves you and is willing to change. If not, you do deserve better.

I'm a girl ... but all my life I have had guy friends ... and for some reason most of them think - paying for sex or watching someone perform doesn't fall in the catagory of ' cheating' . For me it does ... maybe that's what he feels ... I mean he should atleast realize now that your hurt ... what I'm sorry about is that fact that he knows your going through a hard time with his actions and the lack of respect . If he is a really good guy ( every one has their department of bad stuff) you should try talking to him ... ask him what he feels and explain your feeling so that he would understand what your going through , I suggest this specially cz u have a baby on the way .. I don't think you should be in even bigger distress than you are . But sanely if he is still not respectful of how you feel , you need to make a choice

He did admit the first time he cheated to visiting one of the girls twice when he told me he was helping his father after knee surgery. He said they "went for a walk" each time. I'm no dummy. I know more HAD to have gone down. When I caught him the second time his story then changed to 6-8 times. I have asked him why he isn't sexual with me. Even today he's not very sexual...not like he was when we first met. We seriously have sex once every 3 months and it blows my mind. I've never been with a guy that didn't want it regularly. And when I looked at his phone bill and skype history and such, he was camming daily. Sometimes 2-3x a day. So I KNOW he's a sexual guy. I'm still wondering if he's up to no good. I just can't prove it. He's a smart guy. After being caught the first time he became very clever in hiding things. The only reason I caught him the second time was because I put a sound recording device in our bedroom under the bed. My guy told me he was cheating again, but that was the only way I could prove it. What sucks is that he's an oil and gas guy. He works 2-3 weeks away in a hotel and is gone for that whole duration. That's when he was doing all of this crap. So every time he leaves I'm anxiety stricken until he returns. He's in his phone a lot and has recently changed all of his email passwords and his phone login code again. I can't remember the last time I have changed any of that stuff. I'm just worried that I'm getting duped again. He is the father of my child and no we aren't young. We are both 36-37. So he has had plenty of time to get this out of his system. I have so many questions that haven't been answered by him since the day I found out. He doesn't want to talk about it and gets angry when I do. That's when the silent treatment comes into play. He even took it as far as working his days off. This meant that he was gone from home for 7 weeks straight...and our baby was 8 months old at the time. While he was cheating the second time he was working an hour away and refused to come home and visit with us. Now I know why...because each night he was getting his rocks off with this piece of trash. I'm sick to my stomach every day. I'm in therapy and my therapist says that until I get my questions answered, I'm always going to have paranoia. The problem is that he hasn't been truthful when I asked him questions in the past. How will I know if he's truthful if he does decide to talk about things with me in my therapist's office?

My gut* not guy

When I ask him why he isn't sexual with me he has given me bullshit excuses...he told me I was hormonal when I was prego and that made me unattractive, so thats why he didn't want to be intimate. Then he said it was bc work stressed him out. Then bc he was intimidated by me in the bedroom. Just a bunch of excuses. I think there's much more to it.

I am so sorry you have found yourself in this situation. Nothing you can do will change who he is and what he's doing, only he can do that. He's cheating and cheaters lie, excessively.

I think you have to come to the realization that he is cheating while he is away. You have all the proof you need, and he's showing all the signs and symptoms of a cheating spouse: shows little remorse, leaves therapy, locks his phone, changes passwords, uses the silent treatment, responds with the angry-if-you-ask-him treatment so you stop prying, all point to a cheater in action.

He doesn't have a sex drive for you because he's getting it elsewhere and he's probably formed a couple of sexually deviant behaviours from camming. I believe it's time to visit a lawyer for a consultation to find out what your rights are. Do you have family close by you can lean on? If so, go to them, tell them, let them help you, because you're going to need help getting through the devastation of infidelity.

Just know that nothing you've done has anything to do with his dalliances. Not hormonal changes, not gaining weight, nothing. This is all his own doing. You have been a loyal and faithful wife and mother. Don't ever let him make you believe that anything you've done or not done, has anything to do with his infidelity. I would also seek the help of a therapist for yourself, to help you understand that this has nothing to do with you. It will also help you heal in a way you can understand your emotions.

I wish you well.

Thank you.

My husband did the same thing, unfortunately I let him continue to not seek the correct help and let him keep quitting counselors. 10 months later he cheated my entire pregnancy and 2 weeks before delivery stepped it up and slept with a teenaged girl. If you want it to work at all, please, please don't do what I did! It's harder now than the online relationships were.

It started like that with my husband first porn than web sex then he's masterbating in the bathroom at work with strangers finally I discovered he had been having sex with prostitutes 7 that I know of

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