Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
When my wife and I split up she said "...I am pretty sure I am a lesbian." and i sort of felt like that was her "Coming out"
Example of Infedelity?
3 years ago we went on a cruise with my family and it was supposed to be a fun time for us. First night of the cruise my Mom watched the 2 boys (young under age of 4 above age of 1.) So we could go check ou the boat. We were in the night club for about an hour or something then she went to the bar to get us some drinks... I looked over at her to see if she was at the bar yet and noticed she was at the bar and sitting next to a girl that had her arm around my wife. I thought it was odd but, who knows and I figured i'd get the story when she came back.
When she came back I looked up and much to my surprise she had that girl with her. I thought it was odd as she walked right passed me and out the door... I was like "Babe where you going?" she said "oh sorry I am going to the comedy show real quick." which pretty much froze me like "wth?" just happened.
I watched her walk out with the girl and waited about 30 min untill I thought I better go check on her... and after walking around for about an hour I realized I could not find her anywhere. Then I realized our time was up and I had to go back to the room to relieve my Mom from the boys.
I went to the room and my Mom left. I contemplated calling security to have them look for her becuase I had no clue what just happened. After being in the room for about 2 hours and falling asleep I wake up to the door being opened by security and my wife coming in. She said that she had been knocking and no one answered (I was asleep.)
I was kind of upset and said what happened? She said oh I was looking for you... and I found a girl for us to hang out with. I said BS if we were hanging out together we would have been together hanging out... not leaving each other to go with someone else on a night that was supposed to be ours together.
I asked her where she went and finally got out of her that she went to the girls room. She then said that they lightly made out with the girl and that was it... I knew right then she was lying because of her facial expressions and voice. She tried to make it right by being very sexual and making strong passes at me...
In the morning I noticed a mark on her neck and low and behold she had MASSIVE hickeys on her neck so much so that it was extremlly unsightfull and almost looked like an injury. She said "I told her not to give me any hickeys."
Basically had to pass it off like hey I made a mistake but, I love so it is OK. I said do not connect with this girl becuase it is inapropriate for obvious reasons... Weeks later I find that they were friends on some social media and were planning on connecting again near where we live.
We have 2 children and she has a past of being lesbian - bi etc...
Seems like you know her history in any sense.
As well you didn't ask any questions so I assume you just want to hear a perspective.
You married someone who you know had some significant issues that would likely end up being a deal breaker.
Get some counseling to sort yourself out. It is pretty apparent that you have assertiveness issues from your story. This is the kind problem that can cause a repeat.
After I found out about my wife I realized that while she did hide who she really was, I really could have aimed a bit higher in terms of strength of character in a mate.
In your case there were some glaring signs that this wasn't going to work out.
I think it doesn't matter at all if her AP is a man or women. the act of cheating is there, she cheated, she has no remorse, she has no empathy, she doesn't understand the pain she caused, she lies about it, she risks ur health with STD's, and she did not cut all contact with AP, so the affair is still going on.
She may be bisexual however that's not an excuse to cheat, she is no different than most cheaters and if she's not remorsefull theres no use on trying to fix this relationship.
Take some distance from her and consider counseling for urself, being cheated on is pretty traumatizing.
wish you the best, follow ur guts, I think its telling you to run.