Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I'll make it short and sweet as I can. He cheated and had been for GOD knows how long. A neighbor/friend opened my eyes by telling me he tried to bone her (I'm not dumb they slept together). It was the VERY FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE AND ANY RELATIONSHIP I had been cheated on so I eventually took him back..but only after several months of separation. We have a child. Fast forward to a year after..there goes another woman...and another and another. the final straw he got a woman pregnant and told her horrible horrible lies about me. he even took my child on his escapades from the age of 5 to 7. I caught him at hotels, got nasty degrading calls at night from the women who taunted me with the things they say HE told them a secret I hadn't told my very best friends. I even endured ridicule from his family (mother had him at 15 so you can't expect much from a old bitch who was a former whore herself). I just went thru PURE HELL..I even went from 150 lbs to 100 in less than a full 3 weeks that's how depressed I was. So i left him..it took a year to get the strength to do that and I even married him thinking it would work..but I couldn't forget and decided to move on. Put him out and started dating again immediately after. He tried for 3 mths to get me back but I was done and you could stick a fork in me. Well to SOLIDIFY the PIG he REALLY is after I dumped him..he brought her out again and they sued me. fast forward to the present I have moved on, almost 6 months pregnant and don't deal with him or his family. I do not speak ill of him to our child, I do not keep him from getting him WHENEVER he wants, I don't deal with him AT ALL..he's only seen me once since I left him I let me new man answer the door, the phone and the like cause I get my child support EVERY MONDAY..he told his slut that all we had in common is the child so I made that a REALITY for him. But the one time I did see him..I was pulling into my driveway and he was just dropping off our child and leaving. HE HAD THE MOST EVIL LOOK on his face...I mean I am so thankful looks don't kill...and then he burned rubber leaving the neighborhood. I can't understand why he is so angry with me for loving MYSELF enough to stop the madness. I haven't even addressed the fact that when my son does go with him sometimes he or his mother says the worst things to my son. THEY GET NO RISE OUTTA of me. I do explain to my son that Daddy is just really upset right now cause we are not together and that is why he and his grandmother says awful things. I tell him do not listen to bad things and that we must pray for them...IN THOSE EXACT WORDS. When I look back on my relationship with him...I realize he has always been angry with me for things I thought would make him stand taller like...I bought new furniture after I took him back and didn't ask him for a dime..his response was..I guess you got it like that. When I bought my first home he should have been proud but he kept trying to get me to live in an apartment. He kept telling me to buy a Honda when I was searching for a car, but if I pay a note it would have to be something I don't mind giving up my shoe/handbag money for so I bought a BMW..it's fully paid for now. I get compliments all the time about how young I look..I'm mistaken for 25, but September I'll be 40. He response with I should dress my age..yet I dress and carry myself with class.... WHAT IS THE WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE. I thought men WANTED women can carry their own weight, be successful and help him with the load....he's really PISSED AT ME AND I'M CONFUSED. I'd like your opinions and or knowledge of this....sorry about the length....
As far as why he's so angry...of course he will be. You're too strong and smart to take his shit. You woke up to what was going on and you stood up and said NO WAY AM I GOING TO BE TREATED THIS WAY! You go girl. You did what was best for you and your son and that is very admirable. He's angry because you wouldn't lie down and take his shit. Typical narcissitic fool. Don't even waste one more minute wondering why he's so angry with you. As for him and his so called mother (I use that term loosely) Karma will take care of them nicely. If I was in your position and he gave me dirty looks and appeared angry I would laugh in his face.
I'm sorry for all that this guy has put you through - look at the bright side, it's not your worry anymore for the most part! And your son will see right through them!
Be happy..
'Wow, I'll show her. I'll squeal my tires as I leave. That's learn her.'
Oh clown, please...
L~
Good riddance.
My ex still has a huge amount of rage for me after 2 years. I don't see him, email him, call him or send him mail. I have NOTHING to do with him in any way, shape or form BUT he and his skank sought me out here, to read my posts after I changed my account THREE times. He still says nasty things about me, spouts off full out lies to people about me and to this day can't be a real man and tell the truth. And he is angry at me. The opposite of love is NOT hate. It is indifference. If you feel nothing for someone then you don't get angry. My ex and yours have not moved on at all and not dealt with their issues and so anger is the only way they know how to deal. Childish. Immature and pathetic yes, but it is their problem.
Keep living a good life and be happy you are free of someone like that. My life is blessed and my ex can be as angry as he wants to be. I simply do not care anymore. Indifference. That's all they deserve.
Because you've moved on and he's still a loser.
It's really just that simple.
Don't sweat him or his loser family. And good on you for not down talking him to your kid. Just because he is a loser doesn't mean you have to stoop to his level.
OH TRUST IN WHAT I SAY...I AM NO LONGER UNHAPPY AND COULD GIVE 2 TURDS ABOUT HIM AT ALL...it's just funny to see him act like that when I cut off all contact and ONLY made what he told other women a reality....WE HAVE NO DEALING AND NOW AS HE STATED TO ALL HIS SLUTS....THE ONLY THING WE HAVE IN COMMON IS THAT BEAUTIFUL CHILD OF MINE. As for his mother...deep down I knew she was garbage on our first meeting..but you know when your with a man you TRY hard not to rock the boat. I think she will really really get hers...she's on the board at church yet I saw her on more than one occassion sell weed out her back door and when I confronted him about it and told him I felt it was not an good environment for my son to be in during the summer HE LITERALLY ignored me....I knew then that my choice of man was from the bottom of a cesspool and I had to admit to scraping it....chuckle...
I'm like you NEWWOMAN...I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO DEALINGS with him not at all....he doesn't deserve to see me, hear me...and he should be THANKING GOD he has our child as that is the only reason he is able to briefly pass me every so often....
@Lstecker...your a longtime member as well..I remember you. AND YOU CONSTANTLY TICKLE MY FUNNY BONE...please don't take offense but some of the things you say makes me feel like you been hanging around sisters.....I GOTS TO PASS ON THAT and CLOWN PLEASE...that's just too funny and spirit lifting....I just love you!!!!!
Honey, your STYLE comes right thru the screen at me!
(No offense taken, woman. Hell, that's a compliment!)
As far as your EX goes, I would say that as long as he's pissed off at you? Pat yourself on the back - 'cuz you must be doing something RIGHT!
(yeah, and check out that abuse situation that Betrayed mentioned. She's ON!)
(((((hug))))
L~
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. Mark Twain
And your sounding pretty great in my book!
Prayers for you and your son!
I didn't hold her hand and make her type the sexy flirtatious e-mails to her boyfriend. I didn't force the drinks down her throat when she was out with her g/f and b/f and I didn't force her to call him on her cell. Yet she admits no fault.
And, every time I try to do something about it, she claims I'm trying to manipulate her, control her and make her stay home and have no life.
I didn't know marriage came with boyfriends too when I signed up for this.
You are comletely in the right and he can jump in a lake!
I didn't know marriage came with boyfriends too when I signed up for this. "
Heard the same thing. I also thought the same thing about what I signed up for and told him this. Added if this was an open marriage with people on the side then he should have informed me so I could have been playing the field too.
I believe part of the cheaters twisted behavior is to manipulate us into feeling guilty for their sin, feed our desire to reconcile and they never have to own up to what they did and admit responsiblitly for their own actions.
One sentence I read recently in a break up or stay together book was this: If you are married to a liar, your marriage is a lie. That hit me like a ton of bricks!