Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Been sinking into deepening pain for a long time now. It feels like it's only getting worse. I can't for the life of me figure out where the upside of this separation is.
Since my separation started nothing good has happened. And on the flip side she seems to have lost nothing.
She still has these other men in her life. She has a man to fill her emotional needs. She has a man to fill sexual fantasies and inflate her self-esteem. She has men in between that appear to be play things. She still has me in her life to be a great father to her children and provide for her financially.
I've gained nothing but a broken soul. I've gained no financial stability or control. I experimented with some single sites only to be met with either complete rejection or meaningless Q&A sessions with women I would have never chose over the spouse that I still feel deeply in love with. With financial and time constraints of full time fatherhood and full time coal miner I have found nearly zero time for a social life.
I just can't seem to remember what I was supposed to gain from this separation. My dignity? My spine? I've started to sympathize with the wish I never knew crowd. Even a prisoner that has been set free starts to miss the comfort of his cell and the three square meals.
I'm being slowly consumed by an intense feeling of loneliness and hopelessness. Everything I do in life is for the good of our children, but I just don't know what that should be anymore.
Since my separation started nothing good has happened. And on the flip side she seems to have lost nothing.
She still has these other men in her life. She has a man to fill her emotional needs. She has a man to fill sexual fantasies and inflate her self-esteem. She has men in between that appear to be play things. She still has me in her life to be a great father to her children and provide for her financially.
I've gained nothing but a broken soul. I've gained no financial stability or control. I experimented with some single sites only to be met with either complete rejection or meaningless Q&A sessions with women I would have never chose over the spouse that I still feel deeply in love with. With financial and time constraints of full time fatherhood and full time coal miner I have found nearly zero time for a social life.
I just can't seem to remember what I was supposed to gain from this separation. My dignity? My spine? I've started to sympathize with the wish I never knew crowd. Even a prisoner that has been set free starts to miss the comfort of his cell and the three square meals.
I'm being slowly consumed by an intense feeling of loneliness and hopelessness. Everything I do in life is for the good of our children, but I just don't know what that should be anymore.
Now what is wrong man.
You free go to top the mountain and a great Ram and fine a supoeror mate.
I left my marriage with 2 suitcases, lived in a SRO (single room occupancy) and ate fast food.
One day slapped myself, what is wrong with you I am a man lets go find a mate to be happy with.
Guess what after 2 months met a girl beyond my wildest dreams, and my EW most hatest.
Yes sir and that was 32 yrs ago last month.
Damm guy pull the boot strings let me reach out and hand you a V8.
Please get out and meet people. Go out with your friends,go to social events. You might be surprised. I have a daughter I tell to do these things all the time. She is single with a seven yr old and doesn't like the bar scene. Like I tell her, just go out to have fun and meet people. As you can see, no one is going to come knocking on the door.
You really have good character which is being taken advantage of. Conti ue to support the kids but I wouldn't support her. Have you seen an attorney? Your a good Dad who loves his kids,that's obvious but don't allow her to treat you like this. Even in separation,the attorney will set up visitation and child support. Does she work? If not,she will probably have to get a job. Do you own property?
Sounds to me that you really need to make some steps in a positive direction for yourself. That doesn't mean you are not a good father. Abuse doesn't make anybody feel good. You never know who you could meet!. I hope you feel better soon.
Its also the same as if if you cheated on women when she was most vulnerable when would that be? when a women is pregnant.
A man knows a women cant go anywhere when she is pregnant and so some dudes feel that power to behave anyway they wish at that time. Most real men good men would never ever do that at that time. Guess what you found a woman that has done just that to you and she has control over you and needs you to be in control and stay down.
The best form of revenge is living well and moving on. They hate that (the cheaters).
You express yourself very well and she is broken disengage from the scene of the crime and you are no ones Plan B you are someones very lucky Plan A.
Its hard to do this and you will go on the roller coaster of what did I do wrong what could I have done better but after awhile that spinning stops however the WS spinning has just started. This will be her legacy.
The Karma train will roll around and she will have to get on. She purchased that ticket the day she cheated. It must be collected.
As for you it takes a long time to process this and she does not want you to process this and see things for what things really are.
2 scenarios will happen she will either get bored of her new found crappy love and u guys will get back together or you will move on and she will be miserable.
Start to move on so you can always look back at this time and say well you went into crazy town and I took a detour.
Who does the step daughter live with (she is her's I assume)?