Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I've lived through 4 days of hell that could have been made shorter if my husband hadn't lied and lied and lied...even in front of a counselor. He's had homosexual risky encounters and I see that as him having put my life at risk for FIVE YEARS! I do believe he's a sex addict, and I do believe that he needs help.
But how can I EVER forgive him for the potential murder? I think it would have been murder, I really do, had I contracted AIDS. I don't know what I'd have done.
I usually enjoy a couple of glasses of wine each day and eat more than I probably should, but I abstained from liquor and won't indulge in treats. I realize that my anger is probably already harming me through stress, but if I can control the outcome, I won't choose something that will hurt me.
I already had tickets to a show and to hang with young gal friends tomorrow. I'm hoping to convince them to go dancing! That's usually a good stress reducer for me. And our counselor gave me a mediation to do.
Anyone else want to share how they cope with that anger?
But how can I EVER forgive him for the potential murder? I think it would have been murder, I really do, had I contracted AIDS. I don't know what I'd have done.
I usually enjoy a couple of glasses of wine each day and eat more than I probably should, but I abstained from liquor and won't indulge in treats. I realize that my anger is probably already harming me through stress, but if I can control the outcome, I won't choose something that will hurt me.
I already had tickets to a show and to hang with young gal friends tomorrow. I'm hoping to convince them to go dancing! That's usually a good stress reducer for me. And our counselor gave me a mediation to do.
Anyone else want to share how they cope with that anger?
However, a couple of glasses a wine a day is not a great way to cope. You are self-medicating your anger. Alcohol -- be it wine or any form -- is just putting a band aid on it.
I'd tell your counselor about that and maybe she can give you something to take instead. If you don't want to be on meds, then maybe you can do other therapies to deal with all the hurt.
Otherwise, I predict going out "dancing" with the girls will wind up very badly.
For my anger, I did family of origin work to find out how my past affected by present condition. It helped in countless ways. I actually went to a week-long retreat and did intensive group therapy. I recommend it highly.
Remember, that very likely "you'll" need more help than he does. He is accostomed to his "crazy" and you're not. So, seek help for you, individually. Have you sought checkups with an MD? You should. If he has gone this far, he needs longterm and aggressive mental help. But, that isn't "your" problem. Your problem is to take good care of you now.