You should first be easy on yourself and focus on you. You are in the position of nothing to lose so take advantage of the moment, one step at a time and love yourself. Seven weeks is really early on in the process. He needs to keep proving himself and you can appreciate it while knowing that he owes you this. I found that for every step forward there were often two back at the beginning. I don't want to discourage you but I am one year into finding everything out and I still have very difficult moments. Every situation is as different as every person, just be gentle with yourself and give it time. If you have had enough tell him...if he is invested he will share strength to help you get through.

Seven weeks is not enough time.
It took me years to decide what I needed to do.
If he is 100% fully engaged in repairing your relationship- handing over answers as easily as he is hsdk g over whereabouts that you can check out, passwords etc, then the process is in the right track.

Thanks both. Yes he sure is trying and an open book privacy wise. But i am stuck I can't move forward right now. Stuck in the pain anger. While I was much better 2 weeks ago. So the fact I'm stuck already for 2 weeks and not moving forward myself is making me wonder do I have it in me to get past this. But ur right it's only 7 weeks it's early. But i did a big step forward 2 weeks ago and than 5 steps back and then I got stuck since if this makes any sense

I'm 14 months in and I still get the ups and downs to a lesser degree. I remember having some severe ups an downs the first 3-4 months and beyond.

You are going to have weeks in-between where you want to give up and don't feel like you can do this anymore. If the cheating spouse maintains their course correction it is easier to hang in there. Talking about your hurt/pain to your boyfriend may help with this if he is willing to listen and empathize. Seeing him understand and feel remorse for the pain he caused will help both of you.

All in all you must know that as far as BS go you have a better chance as many don't end their affairs, or trickle truth, or continue to withhold information, or blame shift etc. I find the trick to get through this times is to just look forward 1 day and not think about being in the same spot months/years from now and feeling despair.

Thank you forwardmotion, that's very encouraging. its a really tough process. But yes at least we have made a huge step forward in the fact I know the truth and I know he is not continuing any cheating at the moment and he is remorsefull and willing to work, so in that way there is more hope than in other cases I sometimes read on here, but its tough, but I have to hang in there. On those bad days its just hard to imagine there will actually be a good day again at some point, but I know there will be.

I am 10 months in of finding out and still have times where I am not sure what I want to do. Our progress is also on hold right now because my CS is in jail for child enticement because the cops trapped him into agreeing to see a minor. He deserves what he got, but I am also serving a sentence at home without him and unsure how long I can stand feeling like this. I just don't know. In a bad place. Hard to face each day. He will get out in late November. Then we will see. Reading your post gives me hope that I am not alone...

Hazeymae ur definitely not alone. Sorry to hear what you're going through. If you ever want to chat shoot me a message

You will feel differently in 2 years if he continues to do the right things.
However there will still be days that sneak up and sting