Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
You guys would be so proud of me!
I just drafted a separation agreement for my husband and I. Basically I asked him to cover the mortgage payment (which the Army covers anyway) and I will pay for the rest of the house expenses, while I take temporary residence and he lives with the OW. I also told him I would forward his mail to her house, lol. I asked for a visitation schedule to be set up for him to come see the dogs three times a week, but no more than an hour at a time, and he has to come alone.
I used lawdepot.com, to make the separation agreement legit.
I also researched mediation, which it looks like we can do a half day session with a mediator for $375, but to be honest, we don't have very many assets or debts, it should be a simple division and once agreed upon we can file papers at the court house, 61 days later as long as no contesting occurs, which I already decided to do irreconcilbe differences, then we go before a judge and he grants us or denies us a divorce.
I think I will leave the area. I mean, I have a good job here, with potential of becoming a manager of the place I work one day, but its all I have here. I have no friends, only him, and this whole damn city is now tainted with their crap.
I literally think I would only take my clothes and bus back home or to live with a friend while I start a new life over, from scratch. I don't know what I would do about the house. I think if I temporarily live here, then once we do the divorce, I would sign the house over to him, or atleast ask for half of the profit when he sells it down the road.
I already know he will try to call me tomorrow at work, which my boss hates, so I already plan to turn off both of my phones as soon as I get to work tomorrow so he will leave me alone. Well this won't stop him from coming to my work, but I don't think he would make a scene.
So I grew some balls, finally...
On a side note, any plans for the weekend guys? I have a routine going where I clean the house most weekends, I need to get my oil changed, and take care of my dogs vet visit as well as start looking for the documentation I would need to start the filing process. The neighborhood pool is open, which I pay for with 2 HOA fees, so I plan on using that. I am also super excited about how I ordered Jillian Michaels body revolution, so I can start focusing on that too.
I ordered a book called "Getting Past The Affair: A Program to help you Cope, Heal and Move On together or apart" Don't know if anyone has read it, but seems fitting.
Thanks for always being there guys, I know my story is probably way bizzare, but it means a lot.
Becca
I just drafted a separation agreement for my husband and I. Basically I asked him to cover the mortgage payment (which the Army covers anyway) and I will pay for the rest of the house expenses, while I take temporary residence and he lives with the OW. I also told him I would forward his mail to her house, lol. I asked for a visitation schedule to be set up for him to come see the dogs three times a week, but no more than an hour at a time, and he has to come alone.
I used lawdepot.com, to make the separation agreement legit.
I also researched mediation, which it looks like we can do a half day session with a mediator for $375, but to be honest, we don't have very many assets or debts, it should be a simple division and once agreed upon we can file papers at the court house, 61 days later as long as no contesting occurs, which I already decided to do irreconcilbe differences, then we go before a judge and he grants us or denies us a divorce.
I think I will leave the area. I mean, I have a good job here, with potential of becoming a manager of the place I work one day, but its all I have here. I have no friends, only him, and this whole damn city is now tainted with their crap.
I literally think I would only take my clothes and bus back home or to live with a friend while I start a new life over, from scratch. I don't know what I would do about the house. I think if I temporarily live here, then once we do the divorce, I would sign the house over to him, or atleast ask for half of the profit when he sells it down the road.
I already know he will try to call me tomorrow at work, which my boss hates, so I already plan to turn off both of my phones as soon as I get to work tomorrow so he will leave me alone. Well this won't stop him from coming to my work, but I don't think he would make a scene.
So I grew some balls, finally...
On a side note, any plans for the weekend guys? I have a routine going where I clean the house most weekends, I need to get my oil changed, and take care of my dogs vet visit as well as start looking for the documentation I would need to start the filing process. The neighborhood pool is open, which I pay for with 2 HOA fees, so I plan on using that. I am also super excited about how I ordered Jillian Michaels body revolution, so I can start focusing on that too.
I ordered a book called "Getting Past The Affair: A Program to help you Cope, Heal and Move On together or apart" Don't know if anyone has read it, but seems fitting.
Thanks for always being there guys, I know my story is probably way bizzare, but it means a lot.
Becca
It sounds like you have a good plan and you're getting stronger which is awesome. I don't think your story is bizarre by the way. Infidelity touches us all differently but the one universal truth is that it blows apart everything that we thought about our marriages. Its a hard concept to wrap your head around and everyone deals with it their own way. I stopped thinking anything about this was bizarre a long time ago.
Good luck and keep us posted!
You ate a young beautiful girl with so much more to offer the world. He can take his "whore" and enjoy his choices.
BTW if you look at my situation, yours is not bizarre. What cheaters says is true. Infidelity is a hard concept to deal with and we all have a different way and time frame in which to deal with it.