Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Really glad i found this group, been feeling so lost with no where to turn as being cheated on as common as it is, no one really speaks openly about it.
I was supposed to get married in Sep last year. Exactly 1 week before i found out that my fiance had flown out on a "business " trip in August. The girl had msgd a friend of mine. She said how they have been msging since May last year.
I called the wedding off 3 days before as i just could not get married feeling like that. 100 of our closest friends and family know what happened. It was the most horrific week of my life.
If someone asked me the day before i found out if i thought he could ever do something like that i would have bet everything i own that he would never. How is it possible that i was so wrong about him, i just cannot understand.
He says he is sorry and regrets what he did but i cannot stomach the disrespect to me and my family.
We have broken up now and i am just feeling so lost. We had all these plans that are now gone. I wanted the next phase of life, getting married and starting a family etc. Now that seems so far from where i am. I feel robbed of time i will never get back.
Is it possible for people to change. Do people recover from this and still work things out?
I know in my heart that i deserve better, i just have no idea how to know good from bad. I thought he was a good guy but he did the unthinkable to me in what should have been the happiest time of our lives.
Mourn the loss of what you thought you had and move on.
This is all a reflection of who he is and not you.
Do not be thinking that he will change and all will be well. It doesn't work that way. This is who he is. He is a liar and a cheat. Block him and cut
him out of your life.
You could talk to a therapist who might explain all this to you. Most of
these cheaters are narcissists. Read up on them. Take it slow, but get back into your life.
Good luck to you.
Imagine being married a decade with kids and then finding out......many of us here are in that boat. We would all wish we had found out the true nature of our spouses back before we married them.
Whatever you do, don't even consider taking him back. He never had the intention of being faithful even BEFORE he was to marry you.
If you do let him back in and marry him you will be in a worse situation that most of us are in and will look back and wonder why you ever took him back. Then you will feel infinitely more regret and loss of time.