Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I happen to have gotten my hands on a picture of OW topless from a secret email account I discovered. Her face isn't in the picture but she has a very distinctive tattoo on her arm so it's obvious it's her. I've been fantasizing constantly about making posters to spread around town and potentially tack up at her place of work. Big colored picture, her name, her phone #, those little tags hanging off the bottom so you can rip off a paper with her number on it and some statement to the effect of her liking the company of married men...dear God I want to. And write her name and number in every men's bathroom stall I can sneak my way into. LoL
I already had my husband admit to his supervisor at work about the affair and tell him it was her over speaker phone when they had a meeting about his erratic behavior at work since I found out and he ran off the job. I want her to suffer like I am. Denying it and claiming she works in a man's world and has worked hard to earn respect was her biggest mistake. So I guess the point of all this is; Revenge...hurt or hinder the healing process?
I already had my husband admit to his supervisor at work about the affair and tell him it was her over speaker phone when they had a meeting about his erratic behavior at work since I found out and he ran off the job. I want her to suffer like I am. Denying it and claiming she works in a man's world and has worked hard to earn respect was her biggest mistake. So I guess the point of all this is; Revenge...hurt or hinder the healing process?
Revenge feels good for a while, but the repercussions aren't worth it. Not to mention what it does to you as a person.
But we all know the feelings and desires to do so. That is normal and natural.
The best advise I got was hearing the old cliche from Blindsided:
If You Seek Revenge, Dig Two Graves!
Whenever I think about wanting revenge or to cause someone else pain, I remember that statement. I also think that if Blind can practice what he preaches (after what he went through), then I should be able to do the same! I then self-soothe myself and think of pleasant thoughts!
Constantly focusing on revenge is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die!
I think it boils down to whether you think someone can hurt you again. In Osama's case, yeah, we wanted revenge and we got revenge. But on the practical side, there was a pretty good chance that if we didn't remove him from the planet he would try something else.
In your case, sounds like the photo might be pretty good insurance that the OW can be kept at bay assuming you care about that. If you were looking at reconciling, an option would be to show her all the pictures and make it clear that if she ever turns up again that all of them will be plastered on telephone poles around town and enclosed as Christmas cards to her friends, coworkers, and relatives. Might give her an idea that sniffing around hubby is not worth the risk.
Of course, that doesn't mean you can't make their life a little harder :)
The photo - thats just her lack of morals and values. Who sends that sort of photo to a married dude?
she needs help.
the karma train will come for her though - she purchased that ticket the day she started to engage with your H - that is a ticket that must be collected - there is no getting away from that train. its norefundable.