Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Is anyone tired of living on the battlefield, sick and tired of being sick and tired, its only been about 3 months since I found out, im so tired of thinking about it ,going over it, trying to figure it out, im to the point now where I stopped caring how he felt, if I was pushing him away from all the crying and questioning and not being able to trust him, worrying about what he is doing or if he is still talking to her, I think by me beginning not to care anymore about it anymore one day I told him I don't care what you do anymore Im just tired of all this crap, you have already done the unthinkable, what could be worse that your still seeing her, or sleeping with her ,then fine go ahead ,finally let me find some peace, I Dont know how I Feel anymore, I dont want to live like this anymore, feel like this , when I told him that I didnt know how I felt anymore, he seemed shocked, I stopped asking him things , checking his cell I stopped about 4 weeks ago, now he calls me all the time Im like ok fine see you when you get home, I told him if it was meant to be , it was meant to be im not playing the victim anymore, screw it, if you truly love me and value our marriage, it will work out in the end, hes like I dont get it, im like what dont you get , you did this to us you brought this nightmare into our lives, since you have ended it , you think the affair should be over for me as well, you packed your feelings in a nice little box for this ow, and buried it, you know what you want, your happy now, you love your wife and kids, you want to stay married, so why am I not happy ?oh boy you chose me, it only took the near destruction our marriage, you screwing some skank from a bar , screwing around with your co worker and treated me like shit to find out what you really wanted ,excuse me if I am not jumping for joy that you chose me, that ship sailed when I begged you to come home and you left me in the parking lot jobless , I thnk I may have found the peace I have been looking for, I finally realized it was not my fault, do I love my h yes, would I like to stay married yes, but I think now this is his battle, he needs to prove to me that hes worth me staying married to ,not the other way around,
I am just tired of the whole thing.
You are not alone.
We are here for you and you will find we all understand. You have a right to how you feel and how you end up working through things. There is no right or wrong way. Chin up. We are here if you need us.
Do you have a plan on how to do this? Is he aware, of this?
I went through the exact same feelings...I was tired, cried out,and had the whatever attitude. H went to counseling for 2 years, every week. He made some unbelieveable changes. Counseling saved our marriage!
Be careful. At one of our therapy sessions when my H was complaining about how angry I get, the therapist told him that my anger and pain is good and normal. She told him that if I stop caring we are in real trouble. I hope your apathy is just a temporary state because you are worn down. If it is permanent its not good.
Be kind to yourself, as you'll likely waiver back and forth is your feelings and convictions, and that's ok. You're on a forward path. You go girl. I'm right behind you.