Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I went on a trip with my best friend for our summer vacation. We were there for a week. We just wanted to get away from our day to day life, take a break and have fun. For 7 days all we did was tour the city we were in during the day and go out every night meeting people from all over the world.
I met a man on my second night there at a one of the bars. we chatted and dance. Early in our conversation he made it clear he was single, when I asked if he was married his exact reply was "I am not the married type" I asked if he had a gf, he said "No, I only have friends." So I thought ok. No gf no wife, we're both single. He's a very good looking man. I've come across a lot of men and he was the one who caught my attention.
I spent 4 nights of my six nights with him. He was a good company, fun, and easy on the eyes. We msged nonstop throughout the day for the entire time there and when I got back home. We planned to meet up again for my bday in 4 months.
One morning I was on my Facebook. He was one of the "people you may know" on my list. I clicked on his profile and saw his cover page was with a woman. I immediately msged him and sent him the pic asking him who this lady was. I clicked on her profile and found out they had the same last name. I heart sunk. He called me trying to explain and justify his actions. Turns out he's married. I broke down. I spent 4 nights with a married married man.
I've developed strong feelings for this a$$hole it started to cloud my judgement. He tried for a week to sweet talk me and convince me to meet him in a month and that he would pay for all my expenses. He told his wife he was going on another conference and I was to spend 4 days with him again. I am not going to lie a part of me wanted to see him again. For few days I said ok.
Every morning I woke up and felt sick to my stomach for 6 days after finding out he was married. I finally cut him off 3 days ago today. Its so hard not picking up my phone and messaging him. every time my phone rings my heart skips a beat, part of me hoping its him and the other part hoping its not him. I feel betrayed. He robbed me of my vacation, he ruined my vacation. Had he disclosed he was married I honestly wouldn't have continued conversing with him the night I met him. I've turned down so many married men its disgusting.
I know deep down I would not want a man like him in my life and I have no interest in having him in my life. Just my heart is stuck on the feelings I've developed for him. I know over time it'll heal and the days seem to be getting better with time but right now my heart hurts.
I've never been in this situation before and I hope to never be again!!! I am sorry to all the women and men who've been cheated on, and I am sorry to his wife.
I met a man on my second night there at a one of the bars. we chatted and dance. Early in our conversation he made it clear he was single, when I asked if he was married his exact reply was "I am not the married type" I asked if he had a gf, he said "No, I only have friends." So I thought ok. No gf no wife, we're both single. He's a very good looking man. I've come across a lot of men and he was the one who caught my attention.
I spent 4 nights of my six nights with him. He was a good company, fun, and easy on the eyes. We msged nonstop throughout the day for the entire time there and when I got back home. We planned to meet up again for my bday in 4 months.
One morning I was on my Facebook. He was one of the "people you may know" on my list. I clicked on his profile and saw his cover page was with a woman. I immediately msged him and sent him the pic asking him who this lady was. I clicked on her profile and found out they had the same last name. I heart sunk. He called me trying to explain and justify his actions. Turns out he's married. I broke down. I spent 4 nights with a married married man.
I've developed strong feelings for this a$$hole it started to cloud my judgement. He tried for a week to sweet talk me and convince me to meet him in a month and that he would pay for all my expenses. He told his wife he was going on another conference and I was to spend 4 days with him again. I am not going to lie a part of me wanted to see him again. For few days I said ok.
Every morning I woke up and felt sick to my stomach for 6 days after finding out he was married. I finally cut him off 3 days ago today. Its so hard not picking up my phone and messaging him. every time my phone rings my heart skips a beat, part of me hoping its him and the other part hoping its not him. I feel betrayed. He robbed me of my vacation, he ruined my vacation. Had he disclosed he was married I honestly wouldn't have continued conversing with him the night I met him. I've turned down so many married men its disgusting.
I know deep down I would not want a man like him in my life and I have no interest in having him in my life. Just my heart is stuck on the feelings I've developed for him. I know over time it'll heal and the days seem to be getting better with time but right now my heart hurts.
I've never been in this situation before and I hope to never be again!!! I am sorry to all the women and men who've been cheated on, and I am sorry to his wife.
Fill your life with friends and activities--keep busy. Volunteer. Exercise. These things are all therapeutic.
Remember----If he will do it with you, he will do it to you!
This man is not trustworthy nor worth your time, he mislead you from the beginning.
And you are too good a person to be an OW!!!
I really appreciate you taking the time to reply, your support and words of courage.
My friends are very supportive and they truly are my conscience. Without their support this experience would have been a lot worse.
I am a very busy person however nights and mornings suck right now. I am sure that'll get better with time too.
Thanks again.
The Valerian makes a big difference--more potent than just Chamomile tea.
This stuff really helps!
Chances are he will never leave her for you. He will string your along for as long as he can get away with it and its fun. He will lie to both you and his wife throughout the whole time. The more time you invest in this jerk the more attached and clouded your judgement will become.
Don't walk away, RUN and don't look back. You sound like you have morals and standards don't screw that up.
As far as social media goes from your first post, he does not have access to my profile. I don't think he would even bother to look at it. His profile is bare, nothing on it except for pics from 2yrs back. I've noticed he's blocked his friends list since I've caught him in a lie. That only tells me this isn't a first or a last for him. The only thing he as is my phone number and he did indicate he was going to delete it. I don't know that he did but he hasn't tried contacting me since I told him to leave me alone.
Pinkpony66,
Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post, I really appreciate your input and your words of courage.
I couldn't agree more. What took place while I was unaware says more about him than it does me. However what takes place after knowing would say a lot more about me than it would him.
I am not looking back. No chance in hell!
I am just going through the emotions. I've reached out to this website just to talk about it and let some of the emotions I am feeling out and maybe get some insight. I don't know. it's been helpful so far.
You are doing the right thing, and as long as you don't romantisize the situation, and recognize the kind of man he is, it won't be long before your feeling nothing for him. Have you given any thought to relaying what happened between the two of you to his wife?
The angry part of me considers doing that but I would never act on it. I am not going to be the cause of pain for someone else.
I truly feel like she already knows or will soon find out from someone else. I know he's done this before and will continue to do so for as long as he can get away with it.
He did mention she's cheated on him in the past. I don't believe anything he said so I don't know. They need to figure their shit out without hurting other people in the process.
If it were me I would want to know. Oh wait that has been me, except nobody let me know.
Get tested for STD's.
I am a strong believer of karma and the truth always prevails. I don't want any part in their mess. I want my name out of it. I don't think getting involved any further would do my well being any good. As much as a part of me would like to see him hurt, I don't have any ill wishes on their marriage. I wish them nothing but the best.
I guess that also answers hurthusband's question. I'd like to thank you as well for your time and input hurthusband and I am so sorry that you're going through this.
I wish you both happiness and health :) You're both survivors. Stay strong :)
Blindsided I thank you as well for your time and input and I am on it :) Thanks a lot.