My husband came upon a suicide at work a few days ago, right before Christmas. He came home and had an emotional breakdown.
He cried madly when I first found out about the affair and although he's been doing everything to make it right with me, he doesn't get emotional. I on the other hand, I'm an emotional wreck every day. So maybe he holds it in for me. Since then, nothing. That is, until a few days ago. This man's death, who he didn't even know, opened the flood gates. He expressed his remorse, the disappointment in himself as a husband and father, how he failed all of us, took everything for granted because of his selfishness. In 17 years, I've never seen this outpouring. It was raw and expressive. And although I don't revel in someone's pain, it made me feel like I'm not the only one saddened by the breaking of our bond.
Our marriage counselor said that eventually I might show compassion which begets mercy, which begets forgiveness. For the first time in two months, I felt empathy for him. Although I still hate what he did, I felt awful for his sadness.
I don't know what happens next. My wall is up and I'm protecting my heart.
Christmas just passed and the chaos served as a distraction from the turmoil of our marriage. At the same time, it depressed me to think that, if this doesn't work, holidays will never be the same and we'll be in separate houses next time. My heart hurts for this marriage, for my family and the children, for him.
I've been proud of myself the past few days. Taking positive steps, trying to move on. But today something--I'm not even sure what--triggered something, and I just cried most of the afternoon. The love we had, the happiness we shared, the plans, the dreams--all gone, because you had to not only be stupid and cheat, but then lie about it when anyone with eyes in their head could see it was still...
Hello everyone,I am so glad I found this group as I have no one in my family that I can discuss this with. The problem is not with my marriage, but my son and his wife.We live in a small town where my son, his wife and 2 children live as well. We dont get to see them that often due to their hectic life schedule. My husband works at one of the two big name hardware stores in town. One day while...