Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
This week's blog post starts a series on the passions we face, especially in dealing with infidelity. Some may find it helpful.
http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-fire-of-passion.html
http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-fire-of-passion.html
It's interesting... as I was reading it, I realized that (as you mentioned, regarding mental/physical) passions don't necessarily have to be sexual. My husband and I followed our own "passions" and our marriage suffered as a result, since we weren't using this very powerful energy to invest in each other and passion for each other, but rather, were investing in our own self interests.
I look forward to reading your article about how to manage passions.
Interesting rabbit trail you went down. You are right, easy for our passions to pull us apart as much as draw us together, depending what our passion is about.
natures way of trying to create the initial bond with chemistry
i sometimes think we've evolved socially/culturally at the speed of light
while our species is evolving at a snails pace
No, not a psychologist or therapist, licensed anyway. I have a degree in religion, pastored two different churches, and written on religious topics, mostly on my own blogs, for years. In 2006, I began writing fantasy and science fiction under the pen name of R. L. Copple.
May of 2011, discovered my W's infidelity, and began learning all about it I could. Successfully rebuilt so that by our one year dday anniversary, I was celebrating that we'd made it that far instead of dreading it. We both feel like our marriage is in a better place, even while regretting how we arrived here.
While there are others here with similar stories, it became evident that our situation was unique not only in how we rebuilt to a better marriage, but how fast we did it. After reading several books, watch various people and situations come and go here, and using my own noggin', my W and I decided our case study of how we rebuilt and the general principles we've learned could help/inspire others going through this, so we wrote a book titled, "Healing Infidelity," the link about it is in the upper tabs of the blog site.
Putting out that book last May gave birth to the blog site of the same name. I'm trying to write one article a week on infidelity topics and planning for another book more focused to the Christian going through this. These three articles will probably be a chapter or two in that book once done.
While I'm not one, and point that out in the book, we read "Getting Past the Affair" early last year (very good and comprehensive) which is written by a group of such professionals, and noticed how often they emphasized and promoted the same things I did in my book.
I guess I've always been able to absorb info and see the bigger picture, as that's just how I think. Not that I'm always right, mind you. But for me, if I can't figure out the big picture, then I can't make much sense of the details. Maybe too logical minded. I have been called Spock before. :)
I am big-picture also, and need to see my end result, then backward map my way to get there. (I'm a teacher...we emphasize "backward mapping" hahaa)
Thanks for answering.