Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Why was the serpent allowed into the garden? The enemy did not exist in Gods presence. When truth stood before us the enemy was nowhere to be found. When God allowed us time to ourselves the serpent appears and begins its destruction.
The enemy roams the earth, lurking, searching for those it can infect. If it is allowed to find a home it will build, become stronger and tougher, it is a parasite feeding off of the host. When the enemy finds a way in to the house it is important to hunt it down, keep it rattled, and dont let it set up camp.
When you marry, you and your spouse become watchmen for each others gate. A lot of us here have lazy watchmen. They have been bought off, become corrupt, or abandon their post altogether. The enemy has been allowed in and we are left to fight him alone. We build walls of defense to slow him down, but he will devour eventually. It is a terrible monster.
The enemy is doubt. He was a liar and murderer from the beginning. If you have been cheated on, the enemy is within you. If you have cheated, then your spouse is fighting a massive battle that you allowed. The enemy is powerful. He can destroy swiftly. If you are in the midst of the battle, find your weapons as soon as you can. The weapons against the enemy are truth and belief. If you believe then you destroy the power of the enemy, for if you believe then you have destroyed doubt. Doubt does not exist when truth is present. Seek the truth about yourself, resist the lies you hear within you. Keep the enemy rattled at all costs. We were all meant to wrestle with this beast. Take heart that you can overcome.
The enemy roams the earth, lurking, searching for those it can infect. If it is allowed to find a home it will build, become stronger and tougher, it is a parasite feeding off of the host. When the enemy finds a way in to the house it is important to hunt it down, keep it rattled, and dont let it set up camp.
When you marry, you and your spouse become watchmen for each others gate. A lot of us here have lazy watchmen. They have been bought off, become corrupt, or abandon their post altogether. The enemy has been allowed in and we are left to fight him alone. We build walls of defense to slow him down, but he will devour eventually. It is a terrible monster.
The enemy is doubt. He was a liar and murderer from the beginning. If you have been cheated on, the enemy is within you. If you have cheated, then your spouse is fighting a massive battle that you allowed. The enemy is powerful. He can destroy swiftly. If you are in the midst of the battle, find your weapons as soon as you can. The weapons against the enemy are truth and belief. If you believe then you destroy the power of the enemy, for if you believe then you have destroyed doubt. Doubt does not exist when truth is present. Seek the truth about yourself, resist the lies you hear within you. Keep the enemy rattled at all costs. We were all meant to wrestle with this beast. Take heart that you can overcome.
Truth, doubt, enemies, liars, murderers, parasites?
I trusted my H. I loved my H. I believed my H.
I thought he was keeping our wedding vows and the 10 commandments because I believed he was a good and honest person.
Surprise!
And none of who he is: a lying, sneaking, cheating, SOB can be blamed on me. I caught him, confronted him, and he is still a
lying, sneaking, cheating SOB. Cause that's WHO HE IS!
If I could do it all over again, I would have made a better choice.
Wish there was some kind of test we could give our potential
spouses before we married them.
I think of the OW as the enemy. In my case, I do know her.
(double betrayal). But many BS do not. So how do you fight
an unknown enemy? I know this bitch, so I do have some leverage.
I've not done anything, but like knowing I can.
I've not done anything, but like knowing I can"
I know that feeling. I kinda know the OM. I have talked to him a few times since Dday. Once on the phone, once in person. I have sat in front of his house. I know his family's birthdays, and his anniversary. I've seen picts of the inside of his house. I know his hobbies and what kind of music he likes ( he's sloppy on the internet). I know what kind of car he drives and know his licensce plate number by heart ( I don't even know my own).
I've let him know all this, and promised that if I ever suspected any contact that wasn't work related ( he & my W are coworkers) that I would let his family know what I know. It's not much, but it makes me feel a lot better as well.
I work to feel better but the doubts that creep up are a killer for me = Murderer
Doubts make you question who you are, what you think of yourself = Liar
If not dealt with, doubts will grow stronger and be harder to remove = Parasite
Doubts terrorize me, make me tremble, and keep me living in fear = Monster
Doubt is destructive whether you believe its a tool for the devil, evil personified, or simply just an awful feeling you have to deal with. My intention is to call it out for myself and maybe others can relate to what Im going through. To me knowing your real enemy is huge when having to fight it.