Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
While reading the most recent post on forgiveness, I clicked on the link provided by Jayalexander. It has alot of articles by a guy named Rick Reynolds. So I started reading about mistakes BS make during R and mistakes CS make during R and other interesting topics.
At first I thought this guy knows what he is talking about! He was a CS. Then I read two different sentences in two different topics that made me think.....This guy is a total asshole!!!! Sorry, but I was so mad someone would even have the nerve to say such things. The first one was this lovely sentiment, and I quote....Many betrayed spouses don't have the character and maturity and true love to forgive someone. Many are often too invested in being the victim. WTF!!!!
The second stupid statement was this...most of them (CS) cheat for a reason. That you (BS) weren't meeting their needs. Again...WTF!!!
I was so blown away by how insane his comments were. How could someone write such good advice in one sentence and then write something so hurtful and stupid? Makes no sense to me!
And just for the record, if my marriage does not survive my H A it will be because I am just too crushed to make a full R and move past what he did. I DO have maturity and character and I still would love my H.
At first I thought this guy knows what he is talking about! He was a CS. Then I read two different sentences in two different topics that made me think.....This guy is a total asshole!!!! Sorry, but I was so mad someone would even have the nerve to say such things. The first one was this lovely sentiment, and I quote....Many betrayed spouses don't have the character and maturity and true love to forgive someone. Many are often too invested in being the victim. WTF!!!!
The second stupid statement was this...most of them (CS) cheat for a reason. That you (BS) weren't meeting their needs. Again...WTF!!!
I was so blown away by how insane his comments were. How could someone write such good advice in one sentence and then write something so hurtful and stupid? Makes no sense to me!
And just for the record, if my marriage does not survive my H A it will be because I am just too crushed to make a full R and move past what he did. I DO have maturity and character and I still would love my H.
Just to clarify - I recommended only the article on forgiveness, which is the only one written by Rick Reynolds, the rest is written by the owner of the blog whose name I don't know, but he is a Recovering Cheating Spouse himself.
I know well too well from my own experience how much it hurts to be put into one basket with lots of people where you know you don't belong. I have not read on that blog that CS cheats for a reason being that BS weren't meeting their needs or I would be all over him telling him what I think about him. It is indeed a WTF statement.
I did find some valid points in his suggestions about mistakes made during recovery by both BS and CS and I found them quite reasonable under the one condition (and this is how I think they were meant) - that the CS is doing everything right. Then it is on the BS to do his/her part. I don't believe the rebuidling of the marriage is possible without both sides fully commited, but there is no doubt that the heavy lifting is on the CS side. If CS is doing everything right the ball is in the BS court. Even the best quarterback will not achieve anything without great receivers.
Having said that - do comment on the blog about what you think. I did and the guy actually responded. Just know that he is not the same guy that the guy who wrote the article about forgiveness. That was the repost.
And I did not realize that everything on there was not written by the same guy. So I am glad that you pointed that out.
And I did find some of the reading very informative and useful. But as I said, I was just so surprised by what some people view as the truth. And as with anything, we can take what is useful to us and disgard the rest.
I hope you are not upset, that was not my intent! Hugs:)