Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
New here and wanted to share my situation.
I met my husband in 2017, we got married April of 2018 and got pregnant soon after. Around November 2018 he became distant and I found out he started using meth. Our daughter was born February 2019 and a couple months later I found out not only was he using he was cheating with the chick he was getting the drugs from. It continued even though he continued to say it meant nothing. He eventually ended it with her as she gave him an STD.
I've forgiven him but still have my issues and triggers. It's even harder cause we aren't able to work on our marriage and family because he is in recovery since December and that's his focus. Most of our conversations end up an argument and he says he wants no contact because it is jeopardizing his sobriety. It's really hard for me because I managed to stick through the worst and now that's he's in recovery it's like we don't have any room in his life. I want to save my marriage because I'm still in love with him and want my daughter to have an intact family. I also know that I can't force anything and that I have to ultimately do what's best for me and my daughter.
Any insight and advice would be appreciated. Do I try to sit back and let him do his recovery and start the healing process for myself or do I just walk away.
He has made one bad choice after another. What do you think your future will be with him? How about your daughter? Do you want him to be the role model for her future husband?
Wow-- you sure have a lot to handle right now, being a new mom and then your husband hurting himself and you in more ways than just one. I am sorry that you are in such a difficult situation. Do you have someone you can confide in? You said he is in recovery so he can't work on the marriage. Can he not do both at the same time-- find a counselor that helps with both things? Has he shown remorse to you. This is so important for your healing and I would assume he has cut off all contact with the other woman --- if not-- he absolutely needs no contact. I would definitely recommend that you speak with someone even if he can't right now to help you sort your feelings out. Blessings to you.
Is he in a inpatient program?
Just to let you know and warning... I have known many people in programs have affairs while in rehab. Reason is they “understand what they are going through”
Look at getting into an Al-Anon program.