I was in the cheaters anonymous group I did not know what I expected to find, I Thought I might find a room that was a brag session I am honestly releived to find out that they are hurting just as much as we are hurting, well 90% of them,It gave me some peace of mind to find out that no one sets out to cheat, to me it looks as if it is all a matter of timing, someone catches you at a weak or vunerable moment, your having problems at home ,or someting ,your hurting, and someone pays attention to you, Like in my H case, this ow who this was not her first time at the shop trying to bust up a marriage, I was told taht she get's "Thrills"From it and it makes her feel sexy and powerful that men would cheat on thier wives and leave their wives, wich she has no intention of leaving her H b/c he has a great job and she has money, she only works to get out of the house and find some "action" But in this situation with my H she got put in her place, b/c the owner of the shop found out yet again what she has done, and they are going to lay her off permanenty so not to lose my H b/c he is in Maintenence and for the last two years that he has worked there they finally were making profits, My H told them he had to leave to out of respect for me and to get away from her , well I guess she is getting some feedback at the shop and its not to kind, she doesent "Understand" what the big deal is, My H goes to work and comes home right after work he calls me through out the day ,I think he is genuinely sorry for what he has done but now karma has come back around and this woman is making his life hell there so I think he might be paying for it worse then I b/c he has to listen to her trash me, and there is really nothing he can do about it , he would never strike a woman ever, trust me I came at him swinging when I Found out and all he did was stand there, "he tells her to shut up " and he walkes away ,"I told him to tell her 'WHy don't we call up your H and tell him what you have been up to , im sure your gravy train will stop " Then she shut's up, The owners offered my H a huge incentive to stay ,but he say's he's not sure, they have a another shop in North Carolina I jokingly said we should move there, he said maybe we should, then I asked him "Is she really causing you that much grief, I'll come up there a couple of times you point her out maybe a face to face with her she knock it off .so we'll see, So now I am starting to see things in a different light, Im not making my H out to be a victim , I've had nothing but support from friends and family he has had no one ,he gets treated differently finally my brother extended a friendly hand , so he perked up , I told him once you get out of there and get away from all together I think you will feel alot better, he doesent eat or sleep ,he dreads going to work, it's been one wild painful , heartwrenching journey but I am not starting to see the light at the end of the dark tunnel.I can't say that it was the best thing to happen to us I don't wish this upon my worse enemy but , it was a serious wake up call.