Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I am seriously thinking of asking for a seperation from my H. I want him to know that I am very serious about knowing the truth and that he has hurt me tremndoulsy.This is the secound time in 12 years. I think that he currently is feeling secure because I am still here and he even said to me that I wouldn't leave.H says some one is trying to ruin our marriage and he will take care of it and I don't need to be involved. This sucks! This is a bad day and I'm feeling very anxoius and afraid that due to my anger I may make things worse rather than better.
The SOMEONE trying to ruin the marriage is HIM.
Ok, so you want the truth. Believe me, I KNOW how important it is to get this, and how much devastation it can cause when they leave US to "fill in the blanks" when they could so graciously just fess up the damn information.
Whats holding him back?
a. he's an asshat
b. he's an asshat with a compulsive lying disorder
c. he's addicted to drama
d. he's trying not to hurt you
e. none of the above.....
Obviously, you don't want the guessing game.
Personal questions though. Are you still cooking his food? Doing his laundry? Having sex with him? sleeping in the same bed with him?
Might be the time to stop and show him you ARE serious and that the truth is an absolute REQUIREMENT of reconciliation.
Agree with Avien - pack whatever he needs for a few days and tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out.
I clearly remember when my EX truly let it sink in his little mind that I was really leaving him because of his extracurricular activities. My stuff was in the garage and loaded in the car. "Dude, what did you expect???"
"Well, I didn't really think you would actually leave me."
So, he thought he could do this and I would stay and then stay and then stay longer while he had his fun with SPAM.
Man, was he so wrong or what???
L~
The last and final time that my ex cheated on me, I just stood there. I felt nothing. No tears came. I did feel a small, tiny flash of anger when I found out but that was it. I was just numb.
I did look at him and say "what ya keep cheating on me for?"
He looked at me REAL serious and said "Because you never leave".
It's absolutely true- they DO think this way.
If this was a case of criminal and cop; cheater being criminal and the betrayed being the cop. Say the criminal ran a red light, jumped out of his car and snatched granny's purse. Whatever- think of something. YOU, being the cop, SAW this.
Instead of taking ACTION ( arresting him) and in this case, it would be LEAVING him, but INSTEAD just keep asking questions such as why did you do that, how did you do it, etc......
you, as a cop, aren't going to be taken very seriously at all.
The crime is already done. Your husband knows that. In his mind, if you are still there- you are STILL shit on his shoe. Maybe you should wiggle in it his face and jam it square in his non talkative, lying fucking mouth!
In OTHER words, whatever you do, don't do nothing.
Amen...
L~