Long story short (you can read more of the past details on my profile if you so desire), my husband had some emotional affairs and an affair about a year ago that was a little more physical. He left for about a month and a half, realized that his actions were a mistake, then asked to come back. We have 3 kids (just an FYI).

I let him move back in. He has made changes since then to change his feelings about the relationship. He had cheated because he was not happy and has tried to affair proof things by addressing those things that had caused him to feel like he was not providing for us or making him unhappy. I definitely think this is a step in the right direction and is something that needs to be done.

Now to the question part...

I have agreed to work on things with him. I have a hard time getting past the anger that I have developed and getting out of the depressed state I have found myself in. It makes it hard for me to see any "good side" to his changes. I know this is directly related to what I have been through. Since my husband has been working more, we have flopped roles and now I am the one who in addition to working full time also picks up the kids from daycare every day, gets them to practices, takes off work for unexpected school closings or sick days, etc. It's almost like I feel like there is no chance for help and it gets me down. That added work/stress in addition to already being scared of a reoccurrence is hard to cope with.

I am also trying to get my exercise in at lunch a few times per week because missing that has caused weight gain and a bad self image.

I am hoping for advice on how to keep the happiness level on the rise. How to release some of the anger. How to let myself open up again. Unless I get myself in a better place I can't see any of the positive sides from the changes and work on our relationship.

I know I will always be cautious though...

Thanks in advance!