distance, just be honest. You innocently picked up the notebook and read it. In the first place, she cannot give guardianship to anyone while you are alive! That one just gets a big fat...DUH!!! Regardless, you are correct. She has no right to make such a huge decision as guardianship of your children without you. That shows a tremendous lack of regard for you. That is most definitely a team decision and marriage is supposed to be just that...a team! Tackle this one right away. This is definitely an issue that can breed resentment. Sending you support.

I think you just need to ask her about it.

If I were signing that document and my H weren't around, I would probably put my parents down, thinking that he was obviously the primary guardian so this would give them an extra person to contact in case they couldn't reach him, or he was too involved with funeral arrangements, died in a freak accident, etc.

If you get an answer that you're not happy with, THEN call the MC. Consider this a pop quiz to see how much you've learned so far! Nothing is going to come of that form now, so it's a dead issue. But talking and finding out her reasoning is relevant and a good exercise in communication.

good luck!

Yeah, I like what both gals said. Regardless of where the surgery takes place, I believe the law will dictate in terms of what city, state, or province the child was born in, and/or where you got married.

In most cases, the law will not just give guardianship to anyone, so quickly, unless the parents are both deceased, or incapable of raising that child. Unless you have some court records which state heavy addiction (which can still be appealed if you are in recovery), or physical abuse (documented), and possibly some time of emotional abuse (documented), along with some kind of DSM dianosis, like psychotic! So, don't fret too much about that issue.
But yes, she shouldn'thave madae this decision unilaterally, unless she wants to brew a storm. Yup, in counseling would be the best probable outcome, as opposed to your discussing it with her. Now if you guys are in the process of divorce, and she plans to move up there or something, that's a whole nother issue, also to be prepared to discuss with the therapist.

But Lisalisa made a good point! This sure does upen up the opportunity for you to, refine your communication skills, and to try to encourage hers too, cuz this is no way to find something like this out! Sorry, that it came to this!

Whoa...now that is going too far.

She had no right to do that.

L~

Z: i wish i could say that was just browsing. I was on an early conference call for work, and need to jot things down to take to my next meeting when i got into the office. i saw her wriitting, but did not have time to process it until i was driving into work.

And to complicate things worse, our son has dual citizenship like she does. She had him up there so he would get the dual.
And even worse being we are not Legally married, i do not know that even though i am on the birth cert as the father, that would trump her written statement.

Whoa, distance...that is one question that you should fly by an attorney.

Like fast...

Unreal...L~

You should not allow her to take him across the border until you have this resolved. Preventing him from going will prove to be a lot easier than getting him back if something unfortunate should happen to her in surgery.

Good Luck - A.

Woah, I hope that this deviated septum surgery is the real reason she went up there!!! When is she due back home????

Under what circumstances did she leave?

Is she back or when is she due back?

Blonde: She is back. She has been back for about a week. i know she had the surgery cause she can actually breathe through her nose now. And i know her medical insurance sucks here, so she had it done in Canada where she did not have to pay anything for it (so she tells me)

Well, I'm glad she's back, and with your son??

my husband took his whore to court to get his name on the birth certificate and was giong to sue for joint custody aggreement and the judge said no need. Now youare on the birth certificate and you have just as much rights to your child as she does. She cannot deny you your child. He was worried becasue she threatened to go to paris with the child when ever she didnt get as much money as she wanted. He told the judge that and the judge said if she left the country with your son she could face criminal charges. I believe you most likely have equal rights and no form sign by just one legal parent would give grandparents custody. They would have to take you to court to fight for him but again like the others have said, talk to a lawyer. ps, you have every right to read papers with her handwriting on it. She made that clear when she cheated.

If you had your kid in the US and you are on the birth certificate it is my understanding she cant argue that. She also can not give guardianship to anyone. He is your kid. You would get him.
I dont know what she was thinking.

Way wrong on her part! Legally she can't get away with such nonsense, but that's still just a really low blow. Sorry to hear about it distance.