Maybe you should prescribe better your self and your partner so we can understand something more about you guys.
Cheating has not always to do with beauty. Men don’t cheat cause the other woman is more beautiful or more smart but because something is missing in your relationship.
If you please your hubby with all the ways and you show your love to him than probably he doesn’t love you enough then.
But if you do all those things and he still keep cheating on you than is his fault and you can’t do anything about it.
You can except your hubby and have an open relationship between you guys so you can enjoy the same or you should divorce him and find someone else.

Men love to have women wanting them, some men need more. Yes he can have been with you go be with someone else and then come home and be with you. IT only fired up his EGO.
Most men who cheat its just about quantity not quality. IT rarely is about the wife. Even if the sex dies in the marriage its usually the mans fault.
So don't internalize the cheating.
Take it as a opportunity to grow in your own way and be free in your own life as you want.
Focus on yourself and heal from this. Take time to realign your life.

First of all ignore OIP78.
Your H cheats because he wants to and because there are available women who are willing to play second fiddle to you.

Of course these women are of "lesser caliber"! Any woman who knows her true value, has high morals, and has high standards wouldn't cheat with another woman's husband. There is an excellent article which appeared in The New York Times a few years back called: They always cheat down.
I am sure you can find it if you google it. Read it.. It will help you.

You didn't make your H cheat. If you were able to do that, then you would also be able to make him stop. But we all know he will continue to cheat because he wants to. What you can do though is show him consequences.

If you are married you both entered into a legal contract which you can use to your advantage. If you chose not to go that route, then you can out him. Out him to everyone you know. This is his secret, not yours.

Initially I kept my H's secret. Looking back I see how stupid that was. After enduring years of his lies and knowing his A had gone underground, I developed a new tactic. I told people. I quickly learned who was protecting him and who my true friends really are. And he had to endure the shame of his actions., his choices, and his decisions.

Surround yourself with people who support you. Every single day do something for you. Every single day go for a walk and quiet your mind.
When you are calm think about what you want in your life and in your future. Then make a Plan, a real Plan for how you are going to get there.

I want to travel. I know my H's A cost a lot of money. I have a record of his hotel stays. He used marital assets. So I am setting aside an equal amount of money from our marital assets for my travel fund.

There are different kinds of cheaters. Apparently you have a serial cheater. Those people are beyond redemption. You have to decide if it is worth it to you to stay married. He will continue to cheat. If he treats you well, is generous and loving . . . . your decision.

I had more than one friend tell me to just look the other way. My situation was different though. The OW was determined to marry my H and worked for years to destroy my marriage. Looking the other way would have just helped her. I had to take her on, too.

This weekend it is our wedding anniversary. We have some nice celebrations planned.

If you make yourself a priority you will feel better. You can also tell your H what you need and expect of him. I found I put up with a lot of bad behavior because I didn't want a fight, or a confrontation with him. All that did was hurt me and made him feel like the dominant partner. Now if he dares speak sharply to me, I call him on it. I demand his participation in running our household, taking care of the cars, etc. Before he was so absent so I just did it all. No more! I tell him I have to be his first priority. It has worked for us.
I am more supportive and complimentary of him, too, though.

Being cheated on is traumatic; it is demoralizing; it's painful. Just keep reminding yourself that you didn't do anything to make him cheat. You are the prize.

I think OIP78's message was lost in translation.

Anyway, if someone treats you like this again and again, and he KNOWS how it destroys you, then he has the problem, not you. I hear your humiliation, but if you both can't talk about this and understand how it hurts you, or worse, if he does understand how it hurts you and does it anyway, then that isn't love.

If that is the case and If you're not married, then it is time to dump this guy. If you are married, don't stay stuck in a legal contract and be miserable or bitter by holding it against him and yourself for all time, get out and be free, and find someone that won't treat you like garbage, If you really do love him, and he really loves you then try to work this out and get to the bottom of whatever is going on with him, but don't accept him hurting you anymore.

I know I’m not perfect, and I know I wasn’t the perfect husband. But, I realized a long time ago, even if I were perfect, and was the perfect husband, my wife would have cheated anyway. Your husband cheating multiple times with women of a lesser caliber just proves he’s a weak fool. You deserve better. Getting past the humiliation - his actions are his, not yours. Don’t accept any part of his poor decisions and actions.

That is a very difficult question to answer for anyone. Each situation is different and each person is different, so how one person would respond to the same situation could be totally different.

However, I will say from my experience with my first ex cheating on me with multiple other women, it was hard to deal with. I felt like my life was in constant turmoil. It was not until I got away from him that life began to calm down some. I could not tolerate his repetitive cheating without sincere remorse, and I never believed he would be happy with our marriage.

Have you sought counseling? Are you in need of resources?

I feel the pain of which you speak. My husband cheated with me online with "camwhores" and whires from backpage and craigslist. It makes me feel dirty and ashamed. Why would he want cheap whores, when he has a wife that loves and adores him? I am so devastated. I pray you find healing.

It's not you, it's him. He has a problem. You are good enough and now you have the chance to get a better man or just a better life without one. It is your choice.

First of all, get over feeling humiliated. It's not your fault, you have nothing to be humiliated about. He is the weak one. He is the dishonest one. he should be the one feeling humiliated. Don't let society norms that are total crap knock you down. He doesn't deserve you. You thought otherwise, but now you know the truth. Move on. Don't let his shit drag you down.

You are not alone with your spouse downgrading, my wife was 32 when she cheated on me and it was with a man that was 52 and ugly as hell and missing some teeth, but he was a cop and i guess my wife thought that was something, it just made me have a little more disrespect for the badge, he knew that she was still married

I am very sorry you have been treated like this. It has happened to me more than once, so I know the utter disorientation, the loss of self, the pain. First, get yourself tested for STD's. And from now on, whatever you do, protect yourself from possible infection by this man and all the women he has been with. Second, he chose to cheat on you. You did not cause this., and therefore, you cannot fix it. He has a character flaw, a sex addiction, a drug addiction, a huge need for validation of his ego, a need for dangerous thrills...any or all of the above. He will not stop until he realizes he needs treatment and then chooses to get treatment. He has not only cheated, but he did everything else that goes along with it -- lying, hiding, gaslighting, possibly demeaning you, and putting you at risk of a sexual disease. It was the lying, gaslighting and demeaning that my BF did that hurt even worse than the physical betrayal. At the end, I barely knew myself; my self esteem was gone; my identity as his girlfriend was gone. My BF finally admitted to me that he took up with two women mostly because they provided a ready source of drugs, escapism, and fed his ego; they made him "feel good" emotionally. Of course, they were not only immoral women who went after another woman's man, but they were complete losers, even worse than my BF, and THAT is what also attracted him; they made him feel competent and needed. lmao Anyway, unless your cheating man shows some remorse and willingly engages in counseling to address what his problem is, he will continue to cheat and hurt you. You WILL get through this, if you choose to leave him, and you will learn to be happy on your own or you will learn to engage in a healthy relationship if you so choose, once you are a whole and healed person. I suggest counseling for you to help you through this process and to learn and grow from it. btw, both my BF and one of his whores died in Feb. within a week of each other, and their own birthdays, both age 54. Drugs, Covid, smoking and drinking...that's guaranteed not to have a good end to it. Protect yourself. Best wishes. Hugs

Don't see the females that you were cheated on with as lesser than you. They are just desperate for love and companionship as the rest of us and if the man who cheated is handsome the girls may have felt lucky to have the attention of your man. It has nothing to do with you not stacking up, or them being desirable. It all falls on the one cheating wanting to get their way no matter who it is with or what the person looks like