Last night was the night it all came to a head. When this whole horrible nightmare started, I asked my husband to never bring the other woman to our house, because she had been hinting to meet the dogs- which was another no for me. I told him, if she steps foot in my house- I am done.

Well, yesterday he comes home because she was talking to her friends and they think its odd that she has never been to his house, like they are living separate lives, and so he asked me if he could bring her. I said no. I said grow some balls, and tell her no. Well he asked me to stay at a friend's house, but I just kept quiet. So he texted me later- Will be home tonight"-- So then all of these images start running through my head of my house being tainted with her, with them.

So I go back to my house and I refuse to leave. My husband figures out I am there, and is calling me from the bathroom in an anxiety fit begging me not to do this, that he just needs thirty minutes and I said, I am fighting for my sanctuary.

So he finally comes, pulls up and the other woman is like what is going on, you need to figure out who is at your house. So he comes to the door, I open the door, walk right past him and go get in the driver side of the car. I talk to the other woman (man, she isn't cute, at all).

Anyway, I nicely say this "I don't think you are a bad person, I just think we are in a screwed up situation. Here is the deal- my babies are in there, and that is my sanctuary, the one place I have where I can cry in the shower if I need to, or simply just escape from my breaking heart. If you step inside, you take that away from me. Everything will be tainted and I will think- did they kiss here, or so on." She looks at me and says "Well what do you think was eventually going to happen?":-- I am shocked, so all she cares about is screwing my husband in my house because she thinks she can? I respond "This is how it is. My name is still on that house deed, and as long as my name is still on that house deed, I have a right to say you cannot be here. And until that changes, and just so you know, no papers have been filed, I am here to stay."

I leave. The drive off, she jumps out of his car. And he comes back to talk.. and I told him go after her, fight for her- because I am done. He says its over with her, and I said no its not.. she is asking for attention.. she will tell you to divorce me and then you can have her. So he leaves.. and leaves his phone and I forward all the texts and pictures of them kissing to my phone. He never came back last night, and I have turned my phone off today to just escape from the world and take this all in.

So I stood my ground, I wasn't going to let her take this away from me too. He of course is blaming it on me, and I said no, your lying to her and telling her I wasn't here, thats who to blame. I did nothing wrong but fight for myself.

So don't know what the next couple of days or weeks or months will entail, but I am definitely ignoring him. If my phone is on and he calls, I won't answer. If he tries to come to the house, I will make sure he is alone and then walk right past him out the door until he is gone. I am so done.