Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Its been almost a year since my husband talked to the OW. I found out tonight he was emailing someone for sex (they haven't met up yet from what the emails say) but I just feel like all trust is gone again. I love him and don't want our marriage to end, but I'm running out of resources and patience....
Is your husband into porn - especially the online variety?
Any new discovery takes you back to square one, it seems.
I am so sorry this has happened to you again.
Did you go through a rebuilding period after the first one, and did he come clean about what he had done and did he realize the impact it had on you and your relationship with him?
Is he not aware that you can read his emails?
I am noticing that folks have almost an addiction to online dating sites, online affairs, online cheating, etc, etc. You are 22, he's how old? Younger folks are among the ones most often showing this type of issue, not to say that older pepole don't, but younger folks live glued to all these sites.
I think at this point you may want to look at the true picture in front of you. Can you really do anything to make this person feel what he's doing is wrong? - I think that's where the true issue lies. Most people do not see all this online interaction as a big deal - if he's doing it again a year later - he might just have the tendency to do this naturally and you might not be able to stop this, especially if he's young.
So you might want to ask yourself how many more years do you want to spend fighting this battle and do you have a chance to win it.
You might need to step back from the situation and place the focus on you - spend some time soul searching and figuring out what are you equipped to put up with and what's more important to you? to have peace or to keep a man?
Best wishes
Check out the 180 for yourself
http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-180-for-hurt-spouses.html
Continue gathering evidence through his emails, don't let him know you are onto him.
Visit a lawyer to see what your options are.
Spend the next 3 months getting your ducks in a row, financially, legally, support-wise. Also to work through your own emotions and thoughts on it all.
Then confront him with what you know, and decide where to go from there. If you need to move forward with divorce, then you'll be ready.
Having to do all that sucks, but he's not leaving you any other options short of just taking it from him, which won't do either of you any good.